The confusion comes because God is not alone, and it is man's WILL that CAUSED our FALL from LIFE in ADAM...
Your confusion comes when you confuse the cause of the FALL with the cause of SALVATION. Yes, man caused himself to fall..... but fallen man does not cause himself to be rescued. Yes, Christianity teaches that man has FALLEN but it also says he can't save himself and needs the divine Savior, and God has provided that. His name is Jesus.
Your confusion comes when you make the leap that because the Fall was the result of what man willed and did, ERGO the Restoration MUST be the result of man's will and works.
If you make sin little and the Fall even less.... then yes, you can make man solve his own problem (perhaps with some divine help) and that is the position of most non-Christian religions (none of which need the Savior because none of which see a fallen man). In other religions, an uncaring God seats up in yonder places WAITING for sinful man to will and work. But Christianity is unique in that fallen man can't save himself (with help or otherwise) but must be saved.... and God, solely because of His mercy, has come down to us in the Person and work of Jesus, to save. Not inspire, not help.... save (Which is why Jesus is called the Savior). God doesn't wait until dead, fallen, enemies will and work - He comes to save. Luther: "If you see yourself as a little sinner, you will have a little Savior."
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your confusion - placing fallen, dead man FIRST. I played Little League as a kid. And yes, sometimes some young boy (new to the game) would hit the ball and run to Third Base first! Of course, NOTHING he said or did after that made any difference. It's true in LOTS of things.... including Christianity. You keep TRYING to run to man first. TRYING to argue man is just a tiny bit feeling ill (no big problem) and he can save himself - by his willing and working - so you keep trying to run to man first. Fallen, dead, enemies of God (without the Holy Spirit, with a God just sitting up there in yonder places being patient.... waiting) for some unimaginable reason suddenly WILLING and WORKING.... and thus, God runs to him. You have man running to third base first, placing man at the beginning of all this, making fallen dead men the reason, the first-cause (when Scripture flatly states it is NOT because of the will and works of fallen man).
it is the MEANS by which God has CHOSEN to EFFECT our Salvation...
No. Jesus is.
Sola Gratia (not the will and works of fallen dead enemies of God)
Solus Christus (not self; Jesus is the Savior, Jesus saves)
Sola Fide (the free gift of faith is the means, not the dead fallen mans will and works)
Our will DOES change - but this is the RESULT of life, faith, the Holy Spirit. Now, you could have agreed with me the MANY times I've said there's clear mystery here.... we can't know how God works all this in His MIRACLE of justification, His MIRACLE of giving life.... but our will and works is not what causes or chooses or effects that life making self the Savior and Life Giver of self (no need for Jesus), that's flatly unchristian and unbiblical.
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