Those women you listed are being legalistic.
How so?
(True Story)
When I was a kid, there was a trouble-maker in my 3rd grade class named Craig who was wearing a baseball cap in class. The teacher told him to take it off.
He said, “Why?”
The teacher said that baseball caps are not allowed.
So he pointed to a girl in the class. Her name was Holly. She was wearing a girly blue hat with a yellow flower on the front.
Craig pointed to Holly and asked the teacher, “How come SHE gets to wear a hat?”
The teacher said, “Girls are allowed to wear hats. Boys are not.”
He said, “That’s not fair!”
Now, after that incident, I never tried to wear a baseball hat to school, because I knew it was against the rules.
But if I came into school wearing a baseball cap and my teacher tells me to take it off, am I being legalistic for doing what she says? Or am I just being obedient?
Why is it then, that when we obey our teacher, we’re being good children, but when I remove my hat during a prayer meeting, because God’s Word tells me to, then suddenly I’m being legalistic???
I remember wearing a baseball cap to the dinner table. My mom told me to take it off. I didn’t ask why. I didn’t complain. I didn’t try to justify the fact that I can still eat perfectly fine with a hat on. I just did what she said and took it off.
Why am I a “good boy” for obeying my mom, but legalistic for obeying God’s Word?