Oh, friend, I only keep saying these things, because the Bible stresses them!
I love Paul's prayer for the saints,
"For this reason we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; 10 that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God." - Col 1:9-10
And I've shared many times how the Scripture tells us
we must
"walk worthy" of our
calling, the Gospel, the Kingdom, of Christ and of God. These we must do if we are to inherit the promises of God in Rev 2 & 3.
Once the Lord has called us to follow Him, if we begin the Journey, and turn away, God does not keep coming after us. Contrary to some silly songs on the Christian radio, Jesus does not 'break down every door and climb every mountain in pursuit of us. Jesus' Parable of the lost sheep is twisted badly in much preaching today, telling the church goer that whenever they fall away, Jesus will keep coming after them. Rather Jesus plainly taught "
“No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.” (Luke 9:62) Yet this message is to the Elect, not the bulk of mankind.
When the prodigal son left the father and went about doing his own thing, the father did not go after him. Yes, the father was waiting, but he did not pursue the son who fell away. Only when the son decided to return, repent and humble himself -
"come to his senses" - did his father welcome him.
As an old time preacher correctly declared often - "it's not how you start that matters, but how you finish." Yet again, I believe this message is primarily to the Elect, those who will be Christ's
"co-heirs."
Most often, I've found over the years, that those in the greatest defense of a belief that Jesus does it all in us once we've made any sort of profession of faith, or even raised our hand in youth group, comes from those who have loved ones who are not serving the Lord or have fallen into a sinful lifestyle or perhaps even died with great bitterness toward God. So comfort is brought to us if we believe that our loved ones will still 'go to heaven' because at one point in their lives they said a prayer or made a confession of Christ.
If you notice, I often mention Rev 2 & 3 in my teaching. The group who will attain to these promises are very few. BUT these who do, because they have proved themselves worthy, will inherit the bulk of mankind in Eternity, and minster healing and Life to them on the new earth, including many of these loved ones for whom our heart grieves now. This IS the message of the Scripture. And it is a infinitely greater message that is commonly preached today. For it is Truth.
Peace & Blessings.