Gut feelings

[Stravinsk]

How often do you listen to your gut feelings? How often do they tell you the truth?

Earlier yesterday evening I got a customer who immediately struck me as "off". He was smiling from the time he walked in. It was not what I would describe as a pleasant or friendly smile, quite the opposite. His expression and eyes didn't fit with the smile - and although I can't say I could pinpoint it exactly - the thought that came to mind was "duping delight", or some other pleasure in evil. An strong sense of revulsion came over me - and controlled hostility towards this person. He all of a sudden seemed too interested in me and was searching for a name tag (that I was not wearing). Wanted to know my name. I lied and gave him a false one. My barely masked hostility was being mirrored.

A coworker was there and after he left she agreed that this particular customer struck her as weird - in a bad sense.

How often does your gut tell you something, and how often is it right?

 

[popsthebuilder]

How often do you listen to your gut feelings? How often do they tell you the truth?

Earlier yesterday evening I got a customer who immediately struck me as "off". He was smiling from the time he walked in. It was not what I would describe as a pleasant or friendly smile, quite the opposite. His expression and eyes didn't fit with the smile - and although I can't say I could pinpoint it exactly - the thought that came to mind was "duping delight", or some other pleasure in evil. An strong sense of revulsion came over me - and controlled hostility towards this person. He all of a sudden seemed too interested in me and was searching for a name tag (that I was not wearing). Wanted to know my name. I lied and gave him a false one. My barely masked hostility was being mirrored.

A coworker was there and after he left she agreed that this particular customer struck her as weird - in a bad sense.

How often does your gut tell you something, and how often is it right?

Often and often

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[Josiah]

How often do you listen to your gut feelings? How often do they tell you the truth?

Earlier yesterday evening I got a customer who immediately struck me as "off". He was smiling from the time he walked in. It was not what I would describe as a pleasant or friendly smile, quite the opposite. His expression and eyes didn't fit with the smile - and although I can't say I could pinpoint it exactly - the thought that came to mind was "duping delight", or some other pleasure in evil. An strong sense of revulsion came over me - and controlled hostility towards this person. He all of a sudden seemed too interested in me and was searching for a name tag (that I was not wearing). Wanted to know my name. I lied and gave him a false one. My barely masked hostility was being mirrored.

A coworker was there and after he left she agreed that this particular customer struck her as weird - in a bad sense.

How often does your gut tell you something, and how often is it right?

My gut tells me when I'm hungry. Sometimes, it tells those around me, too. I usually listen to it. But not always.

 

[popsthebuilder]

My gut tells me when I'm hungry. Sometimes, it tells those around me, too. I usually listen to it. But not always.

Smrtss

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[Josiah]

My gut tells me when I'm hungry. Sometimes, it tells those around me, too. I usually listen to it. But not always.

Smrtss

Yeah, okay, lol.


I guess to try to NOT be a "smrtass" (gotta remember that spelling).....


I meant my "smrtass" as a way of saying I consider myself primarily a cognative sort of person. But in respect to the op (which I think raised a very valid BUT VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE point).....


1. I'm very much, by nature, a GUY (think Tim the Toolman Taylor). I have a Ph.D. in physics. I work in the sciences. I'm a pretty cognative kind of person. My wife can't give me clues, she can't trust I'll FEEL whatever - she's gotta tells me (well, not ALL the time). I have a large part of me that's kinda of suspicious of "feelings" (gut stuff). I think MOST of the time.... this is the part of me that rules, that's functioning most of the time (or maybe primarily). And I think that's been so since I was a pretty little kid.

2. There is a companion side to me. I do feel. I do cry. I do have a sense of the beautiful, the wonderful, the good, the divine. There are aspects of my life where my BRAIN probably didn't play the primary role (hey, I would not be married if that wasn't the case). I'm a passionate Christian - mostly because of my heart (my head follows - a bit - but always following). To me..... being with my wife, at home, a wonderful meal, a good bottle of wine it's almost a religious experience. I love theatre, books..... I love singing, worshiping.... I love hiking and swimming..... I can get quite "lost" in the wonder of it all..... And yes, I can get hurt. Deeply at times.

It's not "either/or" for me. It's not a "balance" it's a co-existence. Not at all at war, quite friendly co-existence. Sometimes they "counter" each other - keeping either from ruling or being harmful, but often they just enrich each other.

I'm understanding of people who have one aspect or the other much more dominate than I do (partly because I grew up with people more one than the other than I am). I easily can "get it", I'm not at all threatened by such or surprised by such, although at times my response is to glad with coexistence I have. I can feel just a bit "split personality" at times, but it doesn't seem to trouble me at all - I find it actually pretty good. Although..... someday..... maybe my wife won't have to say, "You're missing it......."



- Josiah (at times, the smrtss)

 

[popsthebuilder]

Yeah, okay, lol.


I guess to try to NOT be a "smrtass" (gotta remember that spelling).....


I meant my "smrtass" as a way of saying I consider myself primarily a cognative sort of person. But in respect to the op (which I think raised a very valid BUT VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE point).....


1. I'm very much, by nature, a GUY (think Tim the Toolman Taylor). I have a Ph.D. in physics. I work in the sciences. I'm a pretty cognative kind of person. My wife can't give me clues, she can't trust I'll FEEL whatever - she's gotta tells me (well, not ALL the time). I have a large part of me that's kinda of suspicious of "feelings" (gut stuff). I think MOST of the time.... this is the part of me that rules, that's functioning most of the time (or maybe primarily). And I think that's been so since I was a pretty little kid.

2. There is a companion side to me. I do feel. I do cry. I do have a sense of the beautiful, the wonderful, the good, the divine. There are aspects of my life where my BRAIN probably didn't play the primary role (hey, I would not be married if that wasn't the case). I'm a passionate Christian - mostly because of my heart (my head follows - a bit - but always following). To me..... being with my wife, at home, a wonderful meal, a good bottle of wine it's almost a religious experience. I love theatre, books..... I love singing, worshiping.... I love hiking and swimming..... I can get quite "lost" in the wonder of it all..... And yes, I can get hurt. Deeply at times.

It's not "either/or" for me. It's not a "balance" it's a co-existence. Not at all at war, quite friendly co-existence. Sometimes they "counter" each other - keeping either from ruling or being harmful, but often they just enrich each other.

I'm understanding of people who have one aspect or the other much more dominate than I do (partly because I grew up with people more one than the other than I am). I easily can "get it", I'm not at all threatened by such or surprised by such, although at times my response is to glad with coexistence I have. I can feel just a bit "split personality" at times, but it doesn't seem to trouble me at all - I find it actually pretty good. Although..... someday..... maybe my wife won't have to say, "You're missing it......."



- Josiah (at times, the smrtss)

I find that a mix of cognition or thinking and emotion or feeling work best together as a system. I'm pretty sure they where made that way. We have both for a reason. Not to blindly fly off the handles over an initial emotional response, and not to ignore a things personal significance to you by not using emotional response as a scale of sorts, determining a things level of significance to you. I get what you are saying. I'm an intp.
I'm very analytical and methodical, yet at times seem to border on emotionally unstable or sensitive. I'm still mostly clueless to those little hints of the significant other though, so you're not alone there either.

But I think that the op was more inquiring on instinct, which is somewhat different from emotion. Can you recall a time when you thought something was a certain way, but not because you really thoroughly considered it, but because it was like you picked up on it with the senses almost. Like in the op; the guy, was putting off a vibe. His facial expression was mimicking this demeanor. Our friend seemed to pick up on it, so much so that it actually changed his own mood. None of this was really the result of thought processes, or emotions, as both of those are used, in this case, to help interpret the scenario as opposed to actually causing it. Hence why I say it is sensory and instinctual on some level.

2¢

Hey Josiah.... If I'm not mistaken; we aren't wholly offended by one another, and we communicated a little too.... Cool

Peace

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[Lamb]

Gentleman, please don't try to bypass the profanity filter.

 

[Lamb]

Strav, about 10 years ago I was in a cycling accident. It would have been avoided if I had listened to my first instinct to not tire myself out by riding 20 miles and have a slower reaction time because of it. Since then I have been mostly listening to my gut and doing whatever my initial instincts tell me. Even though the majority of the time my instincts have been correct there have probably been one or two instances where I was wrong, yet I don't recall any at the moment.

When I choose to ignore my first instinct then I've been learning it's a huge mistake and I have regrets!! So I've been very happy listening to myself

 

[MoreCoffee]

When cycling is concerned my gut instinct says "it's a bad idea"

 

[psalms 91]

lol exercise is always that way

 

[Rens]

A lot of times I ignored it, which was stupid. Wonder if they gave up talking to me.

 

[Lamb]

I'm soooooo glad I went with my instincts today and kind of blew a stop sign! We had a major blizzard yesterday and the streets are still a mess and when I went to stop at the stop sign I felt I shouldn't totally stop. I saw there was no one in front of me at the other 3 signs so I slowed down and didn't full stop. I'm so glad I did that because the lady in the mini van behind me lost control and the last I saw of her she was at a 90 degree angle and the back of her van was headed toward my back bumper. I'm so grateful nothing bad happened!!

 

[user1234]

Its really treacherous out there Lämm be careful ... Prayers for your safety. Glad to have a warm house and no need to go anywhere today ... Except out to chop ice, lol.

 

[Brighten04]

How often do you listen to your gut feelings? How often do they tell you the truth?

Earlier yesterday evening I got a customer who immediately struck me as "off". He was smiling from the time he walked in. It was not what I would describe as a pleasant or friendly smile, quite the opposite. His expression and eyes didn't fit with the smile - and although I can't say I could pinpoint it exactly - the thought that came to mind was "duping delight", or some other pleasure in evil. An strong sense of revulsion came over me - and controlled hostility towards this person. He all of a sudden seemed too interested in me and was searching for a name tag (that I was not wearing). Wanted to know my name. I lied and gave him a false one. My barely masked hostility was being mirrored.

A coworker was there and after he left she agreed that this particular customer struck her as weird - in a bad sense.

How often does your gut tell you something, and how often is it right?

Smiles can be deceitful. Every smile is not friendly. I know of a man who while laughing shot another man dead. I knew the laughing guy. He was funny and fun to be around. But, he was a very sensitive angry man. None of us detected that so we were taken totally by surprise when this happened.

 

[psalms 91]

The gut is another way that God can talk to us, more times than not I need to listen for when I dont I usually regret it

 

[user1234]

Smiles can be deceitful. Every smile is not friendly. I know of a man who while laughing shot another man dead. I knew the laughing guy. He was funny and fun to be around. But, he was a very sensitive angry man. None of us detected that so we were taken totally by surprise when this happened.

Wow, that's horrible, Brighten, ... So sorry you had to go through that!
My smiler muscles broke a long time ago, and then between not ever really having a nice smile anyway, and the depression-type facial muscles being dominant, my smile often feels forced, even if in my heart it's genuine, my heart can be smiling, but my face, unlike that childrens song, doesn't really show it. I'm pretty self-conscious about it, posing for pictures, greeting ppl, things like that.
I've tried to practice not caring and just smiling despite what ppl might think, but it doesn't work too good. I'm grateful for the little smilie icons, sometimes they convey what I'm feeling better than my face can, although they are often misread as well.
To answer the OP then, I wonder how much gut-instinct reactions also rely on appearances, or are derived from what we see. IOW, would we get the same gut reaction to another if we couldn't see them? Much like hearing or reading, how much do we get wrong or right from gut-instincts?
I-ve had experiences of both being glad I had them, but also being sorry I relied on them, too, as I was soooo wrong about the person or situation.

 

[Lamb]

The gut is another way that God can talk to us, more times than not I need to listen for when I dont I usually regret it

Ever since I started trusting my initial instinct I have found I'm almost always right. I regret the times I didn't and wished I had!

 

[user1234]

Ever since I started trusting my initial instinct I have found I'm almost always right. I regret the times I didn't and wished I had!

Trying to respond but waaay too many glitches and lag in this thread. I feel like I'm stutter-typing. Wish I knew what my gut-instinct was telling me now.

But yes, Lämm, I've regrets from when I didn't listen and wish I did, but also from when I did listen, and wish I didn't. I seem better at it when it comes to bible stuff, false teaching or perhaps some practice that seems a bit odd. But just for character assessment, in a chance meeting or situation, I'm not as good, ... I try not to put too much emphasis on feelings there, I'm just not as good in that department. I agree much with an earlier post by Josiah on that.

 

[~Jo~]

Ever since I started trusting my initial instinct I have found I'm almost always right. I regret the times I didn't and wished I had!

Totally agree with you lamm

 

[popsthebuilder]

Wow, that's horrible, Brighten, ... So sorry you had to go through that!
My smiler muscles broke a long time ago, and then between not ever really having a nice smile anyway, and the depression-type facial muscles being dominant, my smile often feels forced, even if in my heart it's genuine, my heart can be smiling, but my face, unlike that childrens song, doesn't really show it. I'm pretty self-conscious about it, posing for pictures, greeting ppl, things like that.
I've tried to practice not caring and just smiling despite what ppl might think, but it doesn't work too good. I'm grateful for the little smilie icons, sometimes they convey what I'm feeling better than my face can, although they are often misread as well.
To answer the OP then, I wonder how much gut-instinct reactions also rely on appearances, or are derived from what we see. IOW, would we get the same gut reaction to another if we couldn't see them? Much like hearing or reading, how much do we get wrong or right from gut-instincts?
I-ve had experiences of both being glad I had them, but also being sorry I relied on them, too, as I was soooo wrong about the person or situation.

Gut reactions for me have been rather few and far between, and really do cause a sort of turn or shifting in the stomach not exactly similar to, for lack of a better term coming to mind; a bowel movement. In the few cases where I have actually noticed it and actively decided to disregard it, it has always ended relatively bad. I admit that these feelings are generally more associated with a situation/ scenario/ surroundings, than a particular person.

I'll bet your genuine smile shines through your eyes.


peace

faith in selfless unity for good