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• Gen 33:5 . . Looking about, he saw the women and the children. Who, he asked:
are these with you? He answered: The children with whom God has favored your
servant.
Because Jacob's response drew Esau's attention to the lads rather than the women,
Jewish folklore proposes that Jacob did that so as to take Esau's mind off the wives.
What an ugly thing to say. It implies that Esau was a barbaric cave man who stole
wives from their husbands; yet there is not one single incident in the entire Old
Testament recording something like that about him. So that remark is unfounded,
and totally uncalled for. It's highly unlikely that Esau's mind would be off the
women anyway while they were standing right there in front of him; and
subsequently introduced one by one.
• Gen 33:6-7 . .Then the maids, with their children, came forward and bowed low;
next Leah, with her children, came forward and bowed low; and last, Joseph and
Rachel came forward and bowed low;
The Hebrew word for "bowed low" is from shachah (shaw-khaw') which means: to
depress, i.e. prostrate. At Gen 22:5, and also in many, many other places in the
Old Testament, shachah is translated "worship".
I think the scene went something like this: First Esau asked about the women and
children. Then Jacob, by way of introduction, like a master of ceremonies on a
variety show, moved to the side, raised his arm, gestured towards his family, and
presenting them for Esau's review, proudly announced; Voila! My offspring, with
whom God has favored your servant.
Why not introduce the wives first? Well; in that day, wives were a dime a dozen;
literally bought and sold. But offspring! Oh yes; offspring were to brag about. Men
regarded their offspring as gold and precious stones in value.
"Sons are the provision of the Lord; the fruit of the womb, His reward. Like arrows
in the hand of a warrior are sons born to a man in his youth. Happy is the man who
fills his quiver with them; they shall not be put to shame when they contend with
the enemy in the gate." (Ps 127:3-5)
First up were Bilhah with Dan and Naphtali, then Zilpah with Gad and Asher. Then
came Leah with Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah, Issachar, Zebulun, and Dinah. Then,
last of all, Rachel and Joseph.
Everybody did obeisance to Esau. I tell you the humility of Jacob's family is
astounding. Nobody, not one among them, Jacob included, harbored the
unbearable "chosen-people" mentality that is so prevalent today among modern
Jews.
Esau has been given a very bad rap in Jewish folklore. Yet, not one single time does
the Old Testament portray him as a murderer, a liar, a thief, or an adulterer. Those
allegations have all been smirched upon his reputation by people with evil minds;
prejudiced against him for no good reason at all but merely because his Jewish
detractors can't bear to accept him either as a brother, nor as an equal. Jacob's
progeny has been guilty of all the crimes and sins of which they accuse Esau, and
more too; yet many Jews count their own people superior to Esau in every way
imaginable.
The only reason Jacob's progeny continues to exist is because of the oath and the
promises that God gave their ancestor Abraham. If not for that early covenant, they
would be just as extinct today as the Edomites, and for the very same reasons.
"Fair Zion is left like a booth in a vineyard, like a hut in a cucumber field, like a city
beleaguered. Had not the Lord of Hosts left us some survivors, we should be like
Sodom-- another Gomorrah." (Isa 1:8-9)
• Gen 33:8 . . And he asked: What do you mean by all this company which I have
met? He answered" To gain my lord's favor. Esau said: I have enough, my brother;
let what you have remain yours.
No doubt uncle Laban would have judged Esau a fool because Rachel's dad, badly
infected with a serious case of unbridled avarice, would have certainly snapped up
Jacob's offer immediately. But Esau's repertoire of vices apparently didn't include
greed. He was actually a very moderate kind of guy, and easy to satisfy.
• Gen 33:10-11 . . But Jacob said: No, I pray you; if you would do me this favor,
accept from me this gift; for to see your face is like seeing the face of God, and you
have received me favorably. Please accept my present which has been brought to
you, for God has favored me and I have plenty. And when he urged him, he
accepted.
In accordance with oriental customs, which have continued to be practiced for
thousands of years, the most certain way for one who desires reconciliation to be
assured of it is to have his proffered gift accepted by the one whose favor he seeks.
In any case, it would be considered a great personal favor if Esau would accept
Jacob's gift, even though Jacob knew that his brother didn't really need it in any
material sense.
Jacob's diplomacy was irresistible. The men used different adverbs to describe their
prosperity. Esau said; "I have enough". Enough is from rab (rab) which means:
abundant (in quantity, size, age, number, rank, quality) But Jacob said; "I have
plenty". Plenty is from kol (kole) and/or kowl (kole) which means: the whole;
hence, all. So Esau, through his own industry, had garnered for himself all that he
would ever need. But Jacob, through the providence of God, had everything. So I
think he was implying that he really had too much to manage and would consider it
a personal favor if Esau would take some off his hands.
Here in American culture, we typically feel indebted by accepting a gift from a
friend. That mind-set spoils good will, so that a present-- which should have, in all
respects, represented someone's heart-felt happy thoughts towards us --is typically
regarded as a trap, and robs an occasion of the good feelings it was intended to
generate.
Fortunately there are numerous occasions when we have implied consent to lavish
gifts upon friends and loved ones without arousing suspicions of evil intent; e.g.
birthdays, anniversaries, Xmas, Easter, promotions, retirements, graduations; and
whatever else we can appropriate to express our affections for others. I think that
too many of us have become Grinches out of fear of obligation. It just shouldn't be
that way.
Esau, realizing the sincerity of Jacob's motives, and also himself desiring that there
be no question he himself also earnestly desired full reconciliation with his brother,
finally agreed to accept Jacob's gifts.
Something is strangely missing from the brothers' reunion. Wouldn't you think that
Jacob would be asking about his mom and dad? Were they still alive? In good
health? Stuff like that. Well; I think Jacob already knew. After all, he knew exactly
where to find Esau.
So Jacob may have stayed current all those twenty years via caravans and
messengers. Somewhere along the line, Rebecca's personal nurse Deborah had
joined Jacob. So there's a pretty good chance Jacob already knew all about his
mom and dad before returning to Canaan. However, since Rebecca's personal nurse
Deborah had already joined Jacob, and since there's no record that Jacob ever saw
Rebecca alive after leaving home, his mom may have been deceased at this point.
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