TO THOSE WHO RARELY POST.....

[Josiah]

As at all such sites, there are some who visit the site (perhaps often, even daily) but rarely post. I note the names of those who visiting this site in the past 24 hours and note that most didn't post anything, for example.

I just wonder..... why?

Is it because you find the threads here... uninteresting? Not something you want to participate in? Nothing that causes you to want to participate?

Is it simply because you have nothing to say or add? Perhaps your pov has already been posted? Perhaps you don't have a pov? Perhaps you don't consider yourself worthy to share?

Do you feel your pov will not be respect here - by posters or by staff - that there is not sufficient openness and/or respect here?

Is it.......... ?



I'm especially curious about a few that I know from other sites.... and KNOW they are very active there but mainly just "visit" here.


Do you have any suggestions for this community?



I do NOT - at all - intend this as anything other than seeking to know what is behind this..... perhaps from one FAMOUS (infamous?) for hardly ever shutting up, lol



- Josiah

 

[Josiah]

I've been a part of countless Christian discussion forums since I was maybe 10 years old. I've often gotten WAY too involved (i've never been accused of being quiet). I'm probably STILL officially a "user" at maybe a dozen plus sites, having once been active there. But eventually, I became a "lerker" and didn't post.... and then soon, stopped even visiting, even though I often made good, respected internet friends there that I genuinely, sincerely missed (always - always - the hardest part of leaving a site).


One (or both) of two things were the cause in every case: Subject matter and Staff. Sometimes, there just was nothing interesting there! I could give the names of 2 or 3 big, popular sites - but theres' nothing of interest to me there! Lots of good recipes for chili.... or good discussions on beer. Maybe lots of good fellowship stuff. Maybe even nice prayers or each other. AND THAT'S ALL GOOD! Not saying there's anything bad or wrong about that..... just not what I desire. I go to sites to LEARN. I go to discuss theology and Scriptures - and to LEARN from that. I like to be challenged..... I like to learn new perspectives..... I like to have people make me think..... And I am a self-confessed theology junkie, I LOVE that stuff, and it's hard to find Christians who frankly give a rip (I actually APPRECIATE passionate, oft-posting Catholics or Mormons or Fundamentalists with whom I may greatly disagree..... simply because they CARE, they HAVE a view!). There are a LOT of sites similar to CH where if you post anything about anything that (IMO) is important, it just gets ignored. Eventually, I find I visit and just don't find anything I want to jump into (not that I don't love Chili or minimize the importance of prayer or support.... I just don't go to internet websites for that). To "test" I sometimes will put up a thread.... and just see if ANYONE posts in it, what happens with it. Again, just because it's not what I'm looking for doesn't make it a good site, just not useful to ME.

In a few cases, authoritarian and political staff have driven me away. This has never been the mods who work the site, but usually the owner/administrator. They CAN be dictators, they CAN have strong agendas, they CAN act very authoritatively and arbitrarily. I've "clashed" with a few when they determined they didn't "like" my views or my non-relativism. I also post at some science sites and (interestingly) never seen to have issues with admins in those, but then there is a whole other level of passion in Christian ones (which is understandable). Admins at Christian sites can be overly intrusive, controlling, limiting, authoritative - especially if they perceive a poster as "enemy." Not everywhere, some sites are FAR better here than others, but I have encountered Admins who essentially made "life" for me SO difficult that they pushed me out (one banned me.... admitting that I had not violated a single rule - ever - but I was "frustrating my goals." Credit for honesty).



Pax Christi



- Josiah

 

[Tigger]

I'm probably your quintessential description of a CH lurker/occasional poster. I'm at the 'other' site more but I mainly post greetings and respond to prayer requests over there. My favorite sub-forums are traditional theology, Anglican, Catholic and Orthodox. I tried posting in the Lutheran forum but they were always very rude. I tried starting threads in that forum but the frequent posters knew I attended a LCMC congregation and would always make off topic comments just to spit their venom. I'm a theology junkie myself and don't mind when posters respectfully disagree but I'm definitely not going to expose myself to negative atmospheres. Actually the times when I've had discussions with those who respectfully articulate their POV is when I've learned the most.

As far as owner and staff here, they've always been great. No complaints here at all.

At the 'other' forum I did frequently post in a couple of fellowship threads but they seem to have died out.

As far as the traditional church denominational forums go, like I said I am a theological junkie but probably more on a layman's level so I like to read the posts but don't usually have anything constructive to add.

And last but not least. Fundamental-bible onlyist not (sola scriptura) are boorish to me. Sorry, just telling it at it is :jar:

 

[psalms 91]

Looking forward to you posting more Tigger and if you wish to start a fellowship thread please do

 

[Josiah]

I'm probably your quintessential description of a CH lurker/occasional poster. I'm at the 'other' site more but I mainly post greetings and respond to prayer requests over there. My favorite sub-forums are traditional theology, Anglican, Catholic and Orthodox. I tried posting in the Lutheran forum but they were always very rude. I tried starting threads in that forum but the frequent posters knew I attended a LCMC congregation and would always make off topic comments just to spit their venom. I'm a theology junkie myself and don't mind when posters respectfully disagree but I'm definitely not going to expose myself to negative atmospheres. Actually the times when I've had discussions with those who respectfully articulate their POV is when I've learned the most.

As far as owner and staff here, they've always been great. No complaints here at all.

At the 'other' forum I did frequently post in a couple of fellowship threads but they seem to have died out.

As far as the traditional church denominational forums go, like I said I am a theological junkie but probably more on a layman's level so I like to read the posts but don't usually have anything constructive to add.

And last but not least. Fundamental-bible onlyist not (sola scriptura) are boorish to me. Sorry, just telling it at it is

Thank you! I sure WISH you'd me more active here, I really enjoy your posts..... and as far as I know, we're ALL laypersons here, lol


I've been pretty much kicked out of "the site which shall not be named." I found the Catholic forum to be EXTREMELY closed and rude, and the Orthodox one slow and ignoring. And in the Traditional Theology one, an Admin publicly posted there that I was mentally ill (even stated - publicly - the mental illness from which he claimed I suffer - evidently he is a psychologist, lol). When I reported that for flaming, the post (and all those flowing from it) just.... disappeared. The admin (who INSISTED that ANY post to which a poster chooses to be offended - whether or not it violates a rule - is to be IMMEDIATELY and without notice or conversation to be given a three-day BAN, even if no rule was violated... he got that policy in place for awhile; it was at the time....) it seems he was, well, immune from his own policy. NO ONE in the forum protested that post, there was just some rude PUBLIC conversation as to whether I (by name) was or was not mentally ill. All that okay to the posters there - until I reported the Admin and all those posts just.... disappeared. Told me much about things (well, confirmed them). Way too many similar experience there.


Anyway..... I KNOW..... different sites work better for different people (kind of like churches!).... and obviously, the "site which shall not be named" does for some, and I rejoice in that. I think THIS site is far, far, far more open and respectful... and the staff far, far, far more fair and helpful, but that's just MY pov.


Again, glad you post when you do! I came to Lutheranism in large part because of the Lutheran forum at that site. In those days, it was VERY active, with long and real and unhindered and insightful threads about Lutheranism, Lutheran distinctions, Lutheran views. I learned SO much!



Again, thanks for posting.



- Josiah

 

[Krissy Cakes]

*comes in quiet and sits in the back* :dot: I try to post but I have a hard time with either the topics that are already posting and/or I don't know what to post. :sad6:

I will try better from now on. :thumbsup:

 

[Tigger]

*comes in quiet and sits in the back* :dot: I try to post but I have a hard time with either the topics that are already posting and/or I don't know what to post. :sad6:

I will try better from now on. :thumbsup:

Hi Krissy, good to see you :yourock"

 

[Krissy Cakes]

Hi Krissy, good to see you :yourock"

Good to see you too Tigger. :hug2:

 

[MoreCoffee]

I'm probably your quintessential description of a CH lurker/occasional poster. I'm at the 'other' site more but I mainly post greetings and respond to prayer requests over there. My favorite sub-forums are traditional theology, Anglican, Catholic and Orthodox. I tried posting in the Lutheran forum but they were always very rude. I tried starting threads in that forum but the frequent posters knew I attended a LCMC congregation and would always make off topic comments just to spit their venom. I'm a theology junkie myself and don't mind when posters respectfully disagree but I'm definitely not going to expose myself to negative atmospheres. Actually the times when I've had discussions with those who respectfully articulate their POV is when I've learned the most.

As far as owner and staff here, they've always been great. No complaints here at all.

At the 'other' forum I did frequently post in a couple of fellowship threads but they seem to have died out.

As far as the traditional church denominational forums go, like I said I am a theological junkie but probably more on a layman's level so I like to read the posts but don't usually have anything constructive to add.

And last but not least. Fundamental-bible onlyist not (sola scriptura) are boorish to me. Sorry, just telling it at it is :jar:

I get the venom spitting too. It's part of the territory I suspect. If you're not a part of some minute group that loudly proclaims it's purity and rightness through denigrating everybody outside then you'll probably get the venom.

The other place is, in my opinion, in need of reform

 

[Stravinsk]

As at all such sites, there are some who visit the site (perhaps often, even daily) but rarely post. I note the names of those who visiting this site in the past 24 hours and note that most didn't post anything, for example.

I just wonder..... why?

Is it because you find the threads here... uninteresting? Not something you want to participate in? Nothing that causes you to want to participate?

Is it simply because you have nothing to say or add? Perhaps your pov has already been posted? Perhaps you don't have a pov? Perhaps you don't consider yourself worthy to share?

Do you feel your pov will not be respect here - by posters or by staff - that there is not sufficient openness and/or respect here?

Is it.......... ?



I'm especially curious about a few that I know from other sites.... and KNOW they are very active there but mainly just "visit" here.


Do you have any suggestions for this community?



I do NOT - at all - intend this as anything other than seeking to know what is behind this..... perhaps from one FAMOUS (infamous?) for hardly ever shutting up, lol



- Josiah

I know a few persons in the Singles section that have accounts here but don't use them, and I think that is mainly because they are well known and want to be (as far as anyone can be as someone with lots of posts), anonymous. One is using one of her original names on the board. That's not a guess, she mentioned the name she started with a long time ago.

As for me, as of now there are limited sections of this board I am allowed to post at, primarily because of how I identify, and secondly, perhaps because of some particular beliefs. So, that limits where I can post to the non-christian sections.

Otherwise so far I've been able to air my viewpoints with no problems. This is great, and it also means I have to self check, which is fine. I needed a website that is loosely related to the other to establish myself somewhere, for a time - because for a while it seemed that every newish account that someone didn't like that even had a view that was close to mine was suspected of being my sock account. Hopefully that crap will stop. Come around July, it will be a year since I've had any account on the other place.

 

[Lamb]

To those who rarely post, I'd like to read your opinions

 

[Josiah]

I appreciate all who come here....

I will try to be better about starting threads that hopefully will interest some....

And I am very thankful to the admin and staff here.... IMO, they are doing an excellent, very excellent, job of managing things. My ONLY wish is that more were aware and more would participate.... but if not, it's a great community now.



- Josiah

 

[Hammster]

As at all such sites, there are some who visit the site (perhaps often, even daily) but rarely post. I note the names of those who visiting this site in the past 24 hours and note that most didn't post anything, for example.

I just wonder..... why?

Is it because you find the threads here... uninteresting? Not something you want to participate in? Nothing that causes you to want to participate?

Is it simply because you have nothing to say or add? Perhaps your pov has already been posted? Perhaps you don't have a pov? Perhaps you don't consider yourself worthy to share?

Do you feel your pov will not be respect here - by posters or by staff - that there is not sufficient openness and/or respect here?

Is it.......... ?



I'm especially curious about a few that I know from other sites.... and KNOW they are very active there but mainly just "visit" here.


Do you have any suggestions for this community?



I do NOT - at all - intend this as anything other than seeking to know what is behind this..... perhaps from one FAMOUS (infamous?) for hardly ever shutting up, lol



- Josiah

I don't post much for a couple of reasons. One, I'm busy with the forum which shall not be named.

But mostly it's because I can see how the discussions will go. We have too many here that have little understanding of the gospel and instead are driven by the sensational and emotional. I don't mind a heated debate. But I'm tired of those discussions where the opposition can only make anecdotal arguments apart from scripture, and will not defend their position, but instead just keep repeating it.

 

[Josiah]

I don't post much for a couple of reasons. One, I'm busy with the forum which shall not be named.

But mostly it's because I can see how the discussions will go. We have too many here that have little understanding of the gospel and instead are driven by the sensational and emotional. I don't mind a heated debate. But I'm tired of those discussions where the opposition can only make anecdotal arguments apart from scripture, and will not defend their position, but instead just keep repeating it.

Thanks (to a friend from WAY back - years ago).....

Like all, it's a mixed community but I find there ARE lots of great participants. And also....

Thanks again! I you DO participate more here in the future (I miss 'ya)....


- Josiah

 

[Lamb]

I don't post much for a couple of reasons. One, I'm busy with the forum which shall not be named.

But mostly it's because I can see how the discussions will go. We have too many here that have little understanding of the gospel and instead are driven by the sensational and emotional. I don't mind a heated debate. But I'm tired of those discussions where the opposition can only make anecdotal arguments apart from scripture, and will not defend their position, but instead just keep repeating it.

We're always happy to have you visit! You need to bring ChrisBot with you next time

 

[Rens]

We're always happy to have you visit! You need to bring ChrisBot with you next time

Yes then he can play with iBot.

 

[Lamb]

Yes then he can play with iBot.

They can take over and rule the board! :spy:

 

[MoreCoffee]

What is this chrisbot?

 

[Rens]

What is this chrisbot?

I always saw that name in 'members who are active' in cf. Thought it was just an automatic google thing.

 

[psalms 91]

lol they will rule the internet