Real Godly Wives Submit To Their Husbands

[Amos Ministries]

Submitting to your husband is an act of obedience to God’s word. ⁠
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Ephesians 5:22 – Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.⁠
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Colossian 3:18 – Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.⁠
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1 Peter 3:1-6 – Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. ⁠
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A wife who is respectful and submissive to her husband is of great worth to God. ⁠
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3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.⁠
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A woman who is not afraid to obey God and submit to her husband is virtuous and priceless in her husband’s eyes.⁠
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Proverbs 31:10 – Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.⁠

 

[Member4592]

Wouldn't some women find this post offensive?

I'm a guy and I don't agree with this. From my perspective it promotes domestic abuse. I think relationships and marriages go both ways. I don't believe in having a slave or a servant as a partner in life. That's misogyny, it's hypocritical, and that is unacceptable to me. Most women don't even do that in today's society.

There's such a thing as women's rights. My mom doesn't take crap from her husband and she had several abusive boyfriends that I saw walk all over her. You can't treat someone like that. You want a slave. Switch to Islam. Those women have no rights and have to dress like sock for the rest of their lives and if they piss off their husband, they get beat or worse murdered.

I've met girls that were Baptist or of some Christian denomination. They were in marriages like stated above and the guy was very abusive to them and most of the girls I went to high school are now divorced. Women don't put up with it anymore. That's why people get divorced so quick. Both men and women abuse their marital rights.

Why do you think the divorce rate is so high?

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Then it went even higher during the pandemic because men think it's all good to beat and rape their spouses.

Divorce is Down During COVID

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Whether you believe it or not. There's a lot of men out there that enjoy beating on their spouses and it isn't Christians who do it too. I mean yeah. Women beat men too. I'm not blind to that.

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[Amos Ministries]

Wouldn't some women find this post offensive?

I'm a guy and I don't agree with this. From my perspective it promotes domestic abuse. I think relationships and marriages go both ways. I don't believe in having a slave or a servant as a partner in life. That's misogyny, it's hypocritical, and that is unacceptable to me. Most women don't even do that in today's society.

There's such a thing as women's rights. My mom doesn't take crap from her husband and she had several abusive boyfriends that I saw walk all over her. You can't treat someone like that. You want a slave. Switch to Islam. Those women have no rights and have to dress like sock for the rest of their lives and if they piss off their husband, they get beat or worse murdered.

I've met girls that were Baptist or of some Christian denomination. They were in marriages like stated above and the guy was very abusive to them and most of the girls I went to high school are now divorced. Women don't put up with it anymore. That's why people get divorced so quick. Both men and women abuse their marital rights.

Why do you think the divorce rate is so high?

The U.S. Divorce Rate Has Hit a 50-Year Low

Divorce in America has been falling fast in recent years, and it just hit a record low in 2019. For every 1,000 marriages in the last year, only 14.9 ended in divorce, according to the newly released American Community Survey data from the Census Bureau. This is the lowest rate we have seen in...

ifstudies.org

Then it went even higher during the pandemic because men think it's all good to beat and rape their spouses.

Divorce is Down During COVID

This year, many media reports suggest marriage in America is crumbling under the pressures of lockdowns, job losses, school closures, and the general uncertainty of 2020. As The Daily Mail reported in August: “Divorce rates in America soar by 34% during the COVID-19 pandemic.” But there is some...

ifstudies.org

Whether you believe it or not. There's a lot of men out there that enjoy beating on their spouses and it isn't Christians who do it too. I mean yeah. Women beat men too. I'm not blind to that.

Domestic Violence-Related Homicides Reach All-Time High In Tarrant County

After trending downward for years, domestic violence homicides in Tarrant County have reached an all-time high. This year, 17 deaths were linked to domestic violence. That’s more than double the number recorded in Tarrant County last year.

www.keranews.org

It doesn’t matter what you think it matters what the bible states. Husbands must not abuse there wives and wives must submit to there husbands. There is no other way if you don’t like it it does not mean you can just change it!!!

I don’t know about how your mom has boyfriends since a woman can never divorce her husband. And if her husband divorced her she can never remarry. The bottom line is maybe we don’t like what is said in the bible but if your a believer then you can’t just twist or disregard it.

 

[JRT]

What is also curious is that the marriage rale is now well less than half of 1970. Add to that the fact that divorce rates are higher among fundamentalist and evangelical Christians than in mainstream churches and atheists have the lowest divorce rate of all.

 

[Member4592]

It doesn’t matter what you think it matters what the bible states. Husbands must not abuse there wives and wives must submit to there husbands. There is no other way if you don’t like it it does not mean you can just change it!!!

No. I guess the good thing about the American government is that it's mainly secular.

I don’t know about how your mom has boyfriends since a woman can never divorce her husband. And if her husband divorced her she can never remarry. The bottom line is maybe we don’t like what is said in the bible but if your a believer then you can’t just twist or disregard it.

[staff edit] Most women have a boyfriend before they get married. Some people get divorced. Not everyone believes in what you do.

 

[Amos Ministries]

What is also curious is that the marriage rale is now well less than half of 1970. Add to that the fact that divorce rates are higher among fundamentalist and evangelical Christians than in mainstream churches and atheists have the lowest divorce rate of all.

Looks like you’ll believe anything but the truth!!

 

[JRT]

So you deny evidence when it doesn't agree with your preconceptions?

And still speaking of marriage it is not the church who marries a couple it is the two loving people who actually marry each other. The church and/or the state serve as formal witnesses. Next month is our 45th wedding anniversary but to be honest we have lived together for 48 years. We made private vows to each other until my divorce was finalized. My first ran off with another man 49 years ago.

The church did not insist on an official church wedding until the 11th century. Prior to that the church was usually only involved with the marriages of the rich and powerful to act as a witness because many of these marriages were for political reasons.

 

[Bluezone777]

Looks like you’ll believe anything but the truth!!

The Muslims would probably say the same thing about you. Funny how that line of attack works. I don't think it's as solid of an attack as you think it is.

 

[Josiah]

Amos,

You are confusing POWER with love. The marriage relationship is not one of POWER, lordship, master/slave. It's one of LOVE. Read 1 Corinthians 13.



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[Member4592]

Amos,

You are confusing POWER with love. The marriage relationship is not one of POWER, lordship, master/slave. It's one of LOVE. Read 1 Corinthians 13.

I don't think that's going to help lol. This is a guy who has selective hearing. He's not going to listen to me because I'm not Christian. He's not going to listen to you because he doesn't like the answer. What we have in common is that he's turned a deaf ear to both of us. Because it's not a debate to him. He's trying to convince me, you, everyone on here that his point of view is a FACT when in fact his views are complete dog (no profanity).

 

[JRT]

I don't think that's going to help lol. This is a guy who has selective hearing. He's not going to listen to me because I'm not Christian. He's not going to listen to you because he doesn't like the answer. What we have in common is that he's turned a deaf ear to both of us. Because it's not a debate to him. He's trying to convince me, you, everyone on here that his point of view is a FACT when in fact his views are complete dog (no profanity).

That is how I see it too but I would not have put it so bluntly.

 

[NathanH83]

I think that if a wife submits to her husband, then it shows that she trusts that God will correct, discipline, or judge her husband for his poor decisions, instead of taking matters into her own hands.

Do you take justice into your own hands? Or do you submit to the police and rulers, and trust that God will judge them for their poor decisions and misconduct?

That’s not to say that a woman should stay in an abusive relationship though. She should seek help and get out.

I just think that women need to keep in mind that just like they don’t want to follow their husband’s leadership when he makes poor decisions, so also a husband doesn’t want to follow his wife’s leadership when she makes poor decisions too.

Someone is submitting to someone. There is no middle ground. Either he is submitting to her, or she is submitting to him.

A wife’s refusal to submit to her husband is actually a demand that he submit to her, and therefore she is being the very thing she is accusing him of being. And that’s utter hypocrisy.

“I won’t submit to you, but you better submit to me!”

Really?

 

[Andrew]

If the husband is abusive then he is not a child of God, and if she cant drag him to church then it shows who he serves and a believer should not sup with devils

 

[ValleyGal]

Ephesians 5:21
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Our primary relationship with a spouse is that of brother and sister in Christ. It is our eternal relationship with them. It should define how we treat them. If we are believers, our goal as a Christian is to emulate Christ. This also means we should emulate how he loves the church (Phl 2:5):
1 John 2:2 - sacrificial
He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins
John 13:14 - serving
Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.
Phl 2:6, 8 - humble
Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage...
Phl 2:8 - submissive and selfless
And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!
Mt 5:24 - pursue reconciliation
leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.

These are some of God's suggestions to ALL of us, no matter our gender or marital status or whether it is directed to a spouse or to an enemy. If you treat your spouse this way, then this will happen:

1 John 4:19
We love him because he first loved us (he initiates, we respond)

Either way, it starts with YOU whether you are a wife OR a husband! And rather than men spewing off that women should be responsible for submitting to husbands, they should look at and evaluate themselves as a husband first, to see if he is living up to God's expectations for how a husband should be treating his wife with the fruits of the Spirit.

There are always going to be some men who buy into King James style patriarchy and misogyny. There are always going to be both men and women who take advantage of a spouse's goodness and kindness. There are always going to be spouses who mistreat each other. It usually comes from a very fractured sense of self and injured attachments, trauma, or intensely false core beliefs. These people need spiritual healing, but many are incapable of becoming this vulnerable, even in front of the God and/or spouse who loves them deeply.