Lipstick Argument

[Vanilla]

Just a little background, my elder sister is a bit of a fashionista and is really good at make-ups, clothes and is pretty.
Anyway, ever since she resigned from her previous work in our hometown, and decided to work and stay here with me (in a more urban city), she and her boyfriend (who is still in our hometown), are now in a
"Long Distance Relationship".

So a few days ago, she told me about them fighting over her lipstick color, that her bf doesn't want her wearing red because she looks provocative and "slutty" - which of course made her angry.
Well, imho, when I looked at her get up, she looked fine, her lips looked fine, and why is her bf trying to control the way she wear make-up anyway?

What do you guys think? They haven't been together long, and I know this seems petty, but if he's being demeaning and controlling, I don't want him for my sister. <_<
Also, how can red lips be provocative? what does that even mean? Do guys find it too sexy or what? It wasn't like she was wearing micro mini skirt. Geez. :banghead"

 

[psalms 91]

I think she really needs to consider another boyfriend as he sounds controlling and insecure

 

[Tigger]

Yeah could be a red flag. She should keep an eye out for other such behavior..

 

[MoreCoffee]

Celibacy has a lot to recommend it

 

[Brighten04]

Just a little background, my elder sister is a bit of a fashionista and is really good at make-ups, clothes and is pretty.
Anyway, ever since she resigned from her previous work in our hometown, and decided to work and stay here with me (in a more urban city), she and her boyfriend (who is still in our hometown), are now in a
"Long Distance Relationship".

So a few days ago, she told me about them fighting over her lipstick color, that her bf doesn't want her wearing red because she looks provocative and "slutty" - which of course made her angry.
Well, imho, when I looked at her get up, she looked fine, her lips looked fine, and why is her bf trying to control the way she wear make-up anyway?

What do you guys think? They haven't been together long, and I know this seems petty, but if he's being demeaning and controlling, I don't want him for my sister. <_<
Also, how can red lips be provocative? what does that even mean? Do guys find it too sexy or what? It wasn't like she was wearing micro mini skirt. Geez. :banghead"

He sounds insecure from your description. And he certainly sounds controlling. She should run,not walk, from him. If she puts up with this it will only get worse. Next she will see escalation of the verbal abuse and maybe even physical abuse.

 

[visionary]

Distance may be the cure.

 

[Alithis]

:aargh4:

 

[Rens]

If he had asked her normal.. okay.
My ex asked me too to not wear red anymore. First I did it to look nice for him but noone wears make up here so it's more to fit in. I first thought long distance.. is he Dutch maybe? They won't say slutty I think, but it is in general not appreciated, only a tiny bit of make up you can hardly see most of the time.

 

[Rens]

nm