There are no perfect pastors, but some obviously have gifts that make them good pastors, and the fruit of this is produced in the congregations they minister to.
A good pastor prefers to guide, edify, and comfort rather than control. This shepherd would prioritise person-orientation before task-orientation.
I remember studying leadership styles in one module of our Ministry Training College Course back in 1989, and we did a role playing exercise. Someone had to play a militaristic style, another a democratic style, another a teamwork, style, and the one I had to do was a laissez-faire, self-determining style. I think we arrived at the conclusion that different situations require different styles.
Years ago as a middle order pastoral leader in a large congregation I suffered badly under a task-oriented style of leadership that showed scant concern for the unrealistic expectations, unreasonable demands, and overwhelming burdens their "vision" for the fellowship produced.
I steer clear of domination, intimidation, manipulation, and seduction, but unfortunately these things do occur.