Do you believe in soul mates?

[Lamb]

Do you believe there is a soul mate out there for you?

 

[psalms 91]

Absolutely

 

[Tigger]

I don't know. I kind of go back and forth on this concept. My two first marriages were horrible, horrible, horrible...

I had to come to terms with myself why I was letting people like that into my life. But once I did I found the perfect spouse for me. Whether she's a soul mate or not I do not know but what I do know is she's an absolute blessing from God

 

[TurtleHare]

I don't believe in soul mates at all.

 

[Josiah]

Yes. I married her.

 

[Stravinsk]

No, and I think the concept is a threat to monogamy and loyalty in relationships, as ironic as that may seem on the surface.

Every fight, every disagreement, every disappointment, one might be tempted to ask "did I marry my true soulmate? Or did I make a mistake"?

And perhaps it is true that a mistake was made, but the concept of "the one and only true person for me" creates a binary atmosphere that is not conducive to compromise, forgiveness, patience when troubles come in relationships. It's a position that idealizes a mate and sees him or her through rose colored glasses.

When I am in a serious relationship I am fiercely loyal and monogamous, but that isn't because I am under the belief that the particular female is the "only one in the world" that I could possibly have a good relationship with.

Not to mention - people do change.

 

[ValleyGal]

How are you defining "soul mates">

I had a boyfriend - I called him my soul friend, or friend of my being. We had an incredible attunement to each other, intuition for each other, a natural, genuine, easy, mutually loving and respectful being together. We were so attuned that I could feel him leave when he passed away - and I was not even with him (I got the call about 3 minutes after). He was the one I called my soul friend, although I have had other people in my life (only one of which was a partner), that I have shared that same kind of connection with, only to a lesser degree. In that sense, yes, I believe in soul mates.

In the sense that we have a specific person we should marry as "the one" who is a destined "soulmate", no I don't believe in them. I do, however believe that you can become soul friends with your spouse.

 

[Lamb]

No, and I think the concept is a threat to monogamy and loyalty in relationships, as ironic as that may seem on the surface.

Every fight, every disagreement, every disappointment, one might be tempted to ask "did I marry my true soulmate? Or did I make a mistake"?

And perhaps it is true that a mistake was made, but the concept of "the one and only true person for me" creates a binary atmosphere that is not conducive to compromise, forgiveness, patience when troubles come in relationships. It's a position that idealizes a mate and sees him or her through rose colored glasses.

When I am in a serious relationship I am fiercely loyal and monogamous, but that isn't because I am under the belief that the particular female is the "only one in the world" that I could possibly have a good relationship with.

Not to mention - people do change.

Good point about being monogamous! And also it's good you mention that people change, because they do! For those who believe in soul mates, what happens when one person changes...does the other one change as well?

How are you defining "soul mates">

I had a boyfriend - I called him my soul friend, or friend of my being. We had an incredible attunement to each other, intuition for each other, a natural, genuine, easy, mutually loving and respectful being together. We were so attuned that I could feel him leave when he passed away - and I was not even with him (I got the call about 3 minutes after). He was the one I called my soul friend, although I have had other people in my life (only one of which was a partner), that I have shared that same kind of connection with, only to a lesser degree. In that sense, yes, I believe in soul mates.

In the sense that we have a specific person we should marry as "the one" who is a destined "soulmate", no I don't believe in them. I do, however believe that you can become soul friends with your spouse.

I don't know if I have a specific definition of soul mate. It's jut a term I hear often. That's so awesome you got to experience a magnificent connection with someone! May you experience again in this lifetime as well!

 

[visionary]

I wonder if it is related to "the two shall become one"....If not then there is no true soul mates... although, Ronald Reagan and Nancy seem to embody that connection.

 

[psalms 91]

Yes and that is very rare I think

 

[Alithis]

everyone i know is a soul.. and a few of them are mates of mine

 

[Lamb]

Can't argue with that LOL