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  1. ValleyGal

    Has religion ever gotten in the way of your relationships?

    Yes. I had a friend - a pastor's wife from a church I went to many years ago. I loved her. She was my best friend, but we had a difference of opinion on God's will. She even started praying and taking "digs" at me in those prayers. I talked with her husband, my pastor, about the theology behind...
  2. ValleyGal

    Wearing pajamas in public

    so long as the pajama isn't a babydoll or men's shirt with nothing on underneath, there's no real harm. It was a passing fad. People around here don't do it anymore except to run to the 7-11 when they run out of milk or coffee.
  3. ValleyGal

    Why is public nudity condemned by Christians but not by the Bible Christians follow?

    The Bible doesn't explicitly say "don't eat processed foods" or "women should wear a bra" either. Does that mean that we should become processed food gluttons or N-cup 60-year-olds should be braless, nude, and sagging to their pubis in public in the context of today's social standards? I don't...
  4. ValleyGal

    What’s one essential

    A fully stocked 72-hour emergency kit for each family member, including bottled water, high-calorie nutrition bars, and doggy bags. And for those in tornado alley, a root cellar.
  5. ValleyGal

    People in Jail/Prison

    I don't anymore, but a while back I did. She is a lifer (though she was paroled a few years back). She had been in for a year or two before I started visiting her. I went once a week, I went to all the Christmas parties and other social events. I also facilitated visits with her child up to a...
  6. ValleyGal

    Your aging parents

    Yes, dementia is scary. But in Canada, people are entitled to self-determination, meaning they are allowed to live at risk if they want to, as long as it doesn't put others at risk. Early in my nursing career, I worked part time in a home support position and there were a lot of elderly people...
  7. ValleyGal

    Your aging parents

    My plans are to not have any plans. My dad can decide for himself what he wants to do if he is unable to physically care for himself. In the case of dementia, he has plans for that, too... last we talked, he said he wants to buy an old Corvette and drive it off a cliff. I hope he doesn't, but...
  8. ValleyGal

    Self Improvement

    Was going to take yet another post-grad degree, but I do not want to spend yet another year in school. I want to get off the computer and live my life more outside my house walls. I still don't want to neglect my career, so I'm doing a couple of intense workshops instead. So - self-improvement...
  9. ValleyGal

    Society nowadays

    No manners, rude, selfish, sense of entitlement, lazy, terrible drivers, oblivious to how we affect the people around us, argumentative and dysregulated, taking people, money and opportunities for granted, and broken systems that encourage all this and more, and not enough social service...
  10. ValleyGal

    Your hardest goodbye

    When they buried my beloved.
  11. ValleyGal

    Human Composting Law

    It's interesting that in such a death-denying culture, that funerals have become such big business and now a "green" business. In some areas, as Tango said, upselling is very common, but this can be prevented by pre-planning and pre-purchasing your own funeral/burial. Why not just get cremated...
  12. ValleyGal

    Mental health crisis’

    A person who is mentally ill can have a sound mind. It takes a sound mind to realize that they have a mental health concern and seek help. It takes a sound mind to work with the doctors to find solutions. It takes a sound mind to engage in changing thinking patterns and form new ones. Why is...
  13. ValleyGal

    Mental health crisis’

    From the study: "...explanatory and predictive power in determining how, when and why fear was experienced: power/control and stigma/discrimination." Fear does not drive the mental illness. It drives how they engage with services due to stigma, discrimination, and power and control. The mental...
  14. ValleyGal

    Mental health crisis’

    Mental illness is not rooted in fear. It largely stems from some sort of trauma, often in early childhood but definitely later in life as well, especially when the trauma poses a real or perceived threat of loss. Trauma changes the brain and it changes DNA. These changes are then passed on...
  15. ValleyGal

    Mental health crisis’

    In BC, self-determination is written in the mental health act. People 16 and older have the right to not take medications or seek help. Many have intense shame due to stigma, so they don't seek help. Mostly, people with untreated mental health concerns are just as "safe" as anyone else - except...
  16. ValleyGal

    The best human trait

    I'm not here to talk about baptism because it's off-topic. I do like @donadams "best human trait" of humility though. Humility is at the heart of biblical principles such as repentance, forgiveness, grace, mercy, compassion, faith, kindness, love, and many others. One of my favorite verses...
  17. ValleyGal

    Fave Christmas Carol?

    Boney M's version of the Little Drummer Boy. It isn't directly scriptural, but is a beautiful picture of what it means to be poor and poor in spirit, humble, reverent, and to give of self, because he gave himself first. It takes biblical principles and applies them in a very real and human way.
  18. ValleyGal

    Bad decisions

    People are motivated by a lot of things like trying to fill a need they might not know they have, living out a dynamic from early childhood, etc. Tango's friend might have a sense of learned helplessness, borne out of codependent relationships or maybe a sense of entitlement due to lack of...
  19. ValleyGal

    Describe your personality

    But that doesn't mean not to have any for self. A person can (and should) love themselves: Eph 5:29-30 "After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body." The churched (especially women) have...
  20. ValleyGal

    Easy Fudge

    I love that they came out with so many different flavors for baking chips! Using the OP recipe, you can make mint fudge with mint chips, salted caramel fudge using butterscotch chips and Himalayan salt sprinkled on top. One I want to try is use one less tablespoon of the sweetened condensed...
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