Is being married in a church important to you?

[Lamb]

Is being married in a church important to you?

 

[Albion]

For me, the answer is "yes." So far as many other folks are concerned, it's also "yes," but for other reasons.

It seems common for the prospective bride and groom these days not to be members or even occasional visitors at the church they've picked out. Yet when it came to their decision to get married, they were of the opinion that a church was almost obligated to play host to them (because weddings are what churches do, don't you know?!), complete with the minister to perform the ceremony, and to do it all pretty much "no questions asked."

It's as though a lot of people today think of a church as a community resource not much different from the public library or a hotel.

 

[Josiah]

Yes.


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[Messy]

For me, the answer is "yes." So far as many other folks are concerned, it's also "yes," but for other reasons.

It seems common for the prospective bride and groom these days not to be members or even occasional visitors at the church they've picked out. Yet when it came to their decision to get married, they were of the opinion that a church was almost obligated to play host to them (because weddings are what churches do, don't you know?!), complete with the minister to perform the ceremony, and to do it all pretty much "no questions asked."

It's as though a lot of people today think of a church as a community resource not much different from the public library or a hotel.

Do they do that? My sister wanted to get married in church, but they were both not christian and never went to church. They asked a few, but they wouldn't do it. Then their friends just sang a song, saying they would do it instead. Afterwards my sister said she was happy that they refused, cause she went to a wedding from a non christian friend in a church and it felt so sanctimonious.

 

[Faith]

Is being married in a church important to you?

Do they do that? My sister wanted to get married in church, but they were both not christian and never went to church. They asked a few, but they wouldn't do it. Then their friends just sang a song, saying they would do it instead. Afterwards my sister said she was happy that they refused, cause she went to a wedding from a non christian friend in a church and it felt so sanctimonious.

We were married at the courthouse, then years later when I returned to Catholicism, we had our marriage convalidated by a priest in a church. Then more years later, I became Lutheran and was told we didn’t have to do anything else. I wish we’d had a fall wedding outdoors but we were married in January.

Can Lutherans marry outdoors, away from their church?

 

[Albion]

Do they do that? My sister wanted to get married in church, but they were both not christian and never went to church. They asked a few, but they wouldn't do it. Then their friends just sang a song, saying they would do it instead. Afterwards my sister said she was happy that they refused, cause she went to a wedding from a non christian friend in a church and it felt so sanctimonious.

If I wasn't clear, that is how many people think of the church, any church, when it comes time for them to get married. But as for the church itself agreeing to marry non-Christians, and under what circumstances, that varies with the denomination and congregation. In this permissive age we're living in, some churches will agree to stuff I never would have imagined only a few decades ago, but others of course will hold to the historic standards.

Remember that in the USA there are all manner of Christian denominations, meaning that there is more variety on this matter, as also with other things, than you'd find in most other countries.

 

[Messy]

If I wasn't clear, that is how many people think of the church, any church, when it comes time for them to get married. But as for the church itself agreeing to marry non-Christians, and under what circumstances, that varies with the denomination and congregation. In this permissive age we're living in, some churches will agree to stuff I never would have imagined only a few decades ago, but others of course will hold to the historic standards.

Remember that in the USA there are all manner of Christian denominations, meaning that there is more variety on this matter, as also with other things, than you'd find in most other countries.

Apparently they do it here too now. I looked it up.

 

[Lamb]

We were married at the courthouse, then years later when I returned to Catholicism, we had our marriage convalidated by a priest in a church. Then more years later, I became Lutheran and was told we didn’t have to do anything else. I wish we’d had a fall wedding outdoors but we were married in January.

Can Lutherans marry outdoors, away from their church?

Yes, they can marry outdoors. Most of the Lutherans I know prefer to be married in the house of God though and have the liturgy as part of their wedding service.

I got married in the Catholic Church since my husband is Catholic and today is our 33rd wedding anniversary!

 

[Faith]

Yes, they can marry outdoors. Most of the Lutherans I know prefer to be married in the house of God though and have the liturgy as part of their wedding service.

I got married in the Catholic Church since my husband is Catholic and today is our 33rd wedding anniversary!

Happy, Happy Anniversary!

 

[Lamb]

Happy, Happy Anniversary!

Thank you!!