A social norm you don't understand

[Jazzy]

What's a social norm that you don't understand?

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For me: I don't understand the bride wearing white. Why not a really nice dress that you can wear more than once?

 

[Messy]

My sister wanted to paint hers yellow afterwards, to use for parties, but I don't know if she ever did.

 

[Albion]

Queen Victoria chose white for her wedding and so that became what other brides also wanted.

 

[Stravinsk]

Toilet paper.

Actually I understand it, because I grew up in the West and it's how #2 is handled. What I don't understand is why not everyone adopted a Bidet instead. People say it's expensive or whatever...to have one "installed". I use a portable one that is nothing more than a plastic bottle with a special curved nozzle.

Laugh if you like. After I take care of business in the morning, I don't walk around all day with a smear of poo on my bum or an exit hole that is burning from aggressive wiping. I made the decision not out of consideration for trees. It's just a cleaner, more sanitary method.

 

[Messy]

Toilet paper.

Actually I understand it, because I grew up in the West and it's how #2 is handled. What I don't understand is why not everyone adopted a Bidet instead. People say it's expensive or whatever...to have one "installed". I use a portable one that is nothing more than a plastic bottle with a special curved nozzle.

Laugh if you like. After I take care of business in the morning, I don't walk around all day with a smear of poo on my bum or an exit hole that is burning from aggressive wiping. I made the decision not out of consideration for trees. It's just a cleaner, more sanitary method.

My ex always uses a regular bottle, cause his parents are Indonesian and there it's normal to use a bottle. My dad used one too, cause his dad learned that in Brazil. We have no bidets here. Ex wanted me to use a bottle to clean the kids up when they were small. Bye. I'm not gonna put my hands in that poop. I just used wet toilet paper.

 

[Stravinsk]

My ex always uses a regular bottle, cause his parents are Indonesian and there it's normal to use a bottle. My dad used one too, cause his dad learned that in Brazil. We have no bidets here. Ex wanted me to use a bottle to clean the kids up when they were small. Bye. I'm not gonna put my hands in that poop. I just used wet toilet paper.

Lol, I think you misunderstand. One squeezes the bottle (that is full of water) and it comes out of the curved nozzle to clean the area. The hand that squeezes the bottle is actually further away from poo than someone who uses a piece of toilet paper to wipe.

 

[Josiah]

For me: I don't understand the bride wearing white. Why not a really nice dress that you can wear more than once?

@Jazzy


For centuries in the West, white has stood for purity and innocence (thus virginity).

A bride wearing a white dress is meant to proclaim that she is pure and innocent, she is a virgin. When my beloved and I were married, I also wore white. We weren't lying - but I admit, most couples at weddings do lie.

This is also why the tradition USED to be that brides who had already been married (they were divorced or widowed) did NOT wear white as their wedding.

Nonetheless, wearing white at one's wedding was not universal until fairly recently (it was popularized by Queen Victoria) ONLY because white is not a particularly faltering color for a Caucasion. It's been pretty universal since Queen Victoria wore it, she placing the symbolism above the reality that it wasn't a flattering color for her.

There's no rule known to me that the wedding dress must be something that won't or can't be worn again. But yes, the wedding dress is usually very elaborate and not suitable for regular wear, but that's up to the bride.




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[tango]

@Jazzy


For centuries in the West, white has stood for purity and innocence (thus virginity).

A bride wearing a white dress is meant to proclaim that she is pure and innocent, she is a virgin. When my beloved and I were married, I also wore white. We weren't lying - but I admit, most couples at weddings do lie.

This is also why the tradition USED to be that brides who had already been married (they were divorced or widowed) did NOT wear white as their wedding.

Nonetheless, wearing white at one's wedding was not universal until fairly recently (it was popularized by Queen Victoria) ONLY because white is not a particularly faltering color for a Caucasion. It's been pretty universal since Queen Victoria wore it, she placing the symbolism above the reality that it wasn't a flattering color for her.

There's no rule known to me that the wedding dress must be something that won't or can't be worn again. But yes, the wedding dress is usually very elaborate and not suitable for regular wear, but that's up to the bride

... and most other things in the kitchen are white ...

(ducking for cover...)