Best way to defend yourself

[Jazzy]

What do you believe is the best way to defend yourself when someone says "that's no excuse"?

 

[1689Dave]

What do you believe is the best way to defend yourself when someone says "that's no excuse"?

I normally do not reply but turn the other cheek in the matter, so to speak.

 

[ValleyGal]

Try to get a giggle and ask them what excuse they would go with instead. lol.

Seriously, though, their comment might warrant some self-reflection and self-honesty. If it's still your excuse, you can say "you're right, it's no excuse but it's the one I'm going with anyway." Good boundaries are about taking responsibility for yourself, to other people, and that means letting in the good and keeping out the bad. It's all the excuse you need.

 

[Lamb]

There are excuses and then there are reasons. Some people can make excuses for their behavior but there are always reasons for the things we do.

 

[Albion]

I normally do not reply but turn the other cheek in the matter, so to speak.

You mean that you simply repeat the statement you'd made before that had been questioned or debunked. That IS a way of deflecting, I would agree; but it's not what's called "turning the other cheek." Not by a longshot.

 

[1689Dave]

You mean that you simply repeat the statement you'd made before that had been questioned or debunked. That IS a way of deflecting, I would agree; but it's not what's called "turning the other cheek." Not by a longshot.

The statement is true. Repetition sometimes helps people understand it.