Why won't they sit next to me??????

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We have meetings twice a monthy at work and I hate going to these for one reason...the guys won't sit next to me. We primarily have men in the office and it seems they'll sit anywhere else but next to me until they absolutely have to at the last minute when all the other seats are filled. I do not stink! Even the guys I talk to don't choose to sit next to me. Sometimes the girls will and I appreciate that. I feel like that wimpy kid who gets chosen last on the team.

So why won't they sit next to me unless it's the last open seats?
 

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Well I can't really answer this question because I don't really know about your job etc. It can be because you stink but I doubt that. Maybe it is because of something you did or said.

I know that a girl at my work is spreading the word that I told her I hated her, which I didn't, I don't think I ever gave her a reason to hate me.
 

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Are you still working at the same place with your husband?


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Well I can't really answer this question because I don't really know about your job etc. It can be because you stink but I doubt that. Maybe it is because of something you did or said.

I know that a girl at my work is spreading the word that I told her I hated her, which I didn't, I don't think I ever gave her a reason to hate me.

I don't really know too many people at work so I hope I haven't offended anyone.
 

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Yep. Do you think they're intimidated?
 

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Yep. Do you think they're intimidated?

Could be. Maybe talk to your husband about it. (just a thought)

I'm praying for you sis. :pray:
 

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Yep. Do you think they're intimidated?

It might be that they feel your husband might look at them wrong if they sat next to you.


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Lammchen maybe they are intimidated by your beauty.
Have you guys seen this little lady? PERTY!! Sorry Lammie, the secrets out
 

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From what I understand, many men are intimidated by overzealous HR dept. policies that exist in some office environments regarding sexual harassment. Clearly such harassment is wrong, but some companies take it too far and as a result some men feel like they would rather avoid any and all situations where they could be called out.
 

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It might be that they feel your husband might look at them wrong if they sat next to you.


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I agree. :)
 

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I don't even think that most of them know who I am and when they hear my last name, even though it's common, they don't realize I'm married to my husband! Kinda funny. We're really very opposite so they don't expect us to be a couple.
 

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Another reason might be because you ARE a woman. And in this "claim sexual harassment at a drop of a hat" era, there might be a level of self-preservation. Or a number of similar reasons.

Whatever it is, I wouldn't take it personally.


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Yeah don´t take it too personal, I mean while your worrying about whatever it might be you could just as well be inspiring other people :)

Unless, unlike me, you are very good at multitasking :p
 

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It's so hard to not take it personally though! :p I guess I'm considered dangerous?? :rotfl:
 

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I don't really know too many people at work so I hope I haven't offended anyone.


Knowing you personally YOU could NEVER offend anyone... my thought it that a guy just wants to not be noticed.. like they want to stick in a group.. and if ONE starts to sit next to you then the other men will follow ...its just the thought of getting the first one to sit next to you.. let me ask you this in reverse.. IF you walked in the room would you in turn sit next to a man or would you prefer to sit or stand by the women..

Men are differnt then women.. lets face it.. their personality is different.. their ways of doing things are different .. yeah I know the old saying.. 'of course they are different' but you know what I am trying to say..
 

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let me ask you this in reverse.. IF you walked in the room would you in turn sit next to a man or would you prefer to sit or stand by the women..

It depended on who the guy was and who the girl was. If I knew the guy and not the girl, I'd sit next to him. If I knew the girl and that guy, I'd choose the girl. If I knew the girl and not the guy I'd sit next to her :)
 

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It depended on who the guy was and who the girl was. If I knew the guy and not the girl, I'd sit next to him. If I knew the girl and that guy, I'd choose the girl. If I knew the girl and not the guy I'd sit next to her :)

Probably that's the thought of the guy too ;)
 
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