Feeling troubled. When my grandmother passed away I had three days bereavement on which I got a call the second day that I was terminated :/
I filed unemployment in the meantime as im in between jobs and it was denied. My case is that it was a wrongful termination and I really do not see how my former employer won the case... thus far. I just filed an appeal and I believe that they are using old violations to justify the termination. If that is the case why no verbal or written warning? They fired me the second day as I was mourning my grandmothers tragic death and preparing my role in the funeral. Why not fire me earlier? The previous violations contradict the employee handbook, one violation was when I left "early" (after 9 hours) because my grandma got in the accident and I wanted to be around family and know whats going on, I was in shock. The second was a few months later when she had several strokes and was unresponsive (a few days before she died).. It was a saturday btw and I got to see her one last time. I contacted the department the day before because I knew I would be out of town the next day. I had a series of dental procedures done which excused me on medical leave but to them I suppose it looks bad... I dunno. They were planning to move me to the front side department where I would have regular 8 hour shifts so I can make it to doctor and dentist appointments, they just needed a replacement for me but didn't get one for an entire month in which I had only one doctors appointment after an 8 hour shift. These all were supposedly excused but now they are going back on their word saying they never said that it was ok :/
The very day my grandmother died we were training my replacement but I left around noon which started my bereavement period... instead of waiting for me to return tuesday (monday was her funeral) they fire me the Friday before (2nd day of bereavement) and that tells me that they waited too long to replace me and the people in the front had already replaced my new position :/
Its interesting because yesterday I made a very sound argument with the decider for my claim in a phone conversation. After that call he made the call to my employer and I got the notice via website account that I was denied "because they fired me" :/
Well no duh, we confirmed that over the phone.
The termination was a slap in the face and not one of them ever consoled me over my recent loss in the family.
Side note: My aunt passes away a week later of lung failure she had been battling for months due to replacement lung complication... Im sure they would have fired me for her death as well.
The company said I owed PTO so my last check was a zero net check, after I showed him the funeral pamphlet I asked if I could at least get the 3 days bereavement pay... they approved but still took 10 hours toward PTO owed.
Now im jobless, penniless, hurt and confused, feeling betrayed, in mourning and bills are piling up and I am feeling spiritually weak just like the bad old days...
My insomnia is kicking in, I had a panic attack at church at my aunts funeral, my mood stabilizers are running low and also my Ambien lol but they arent really helping me much anyway.
Big boohoo post but I'm not trying to be a downer, just venting. Haven't been to my church in forever because I feel like I would be totally judged in front of my congregation and im not people pleasing anymore, they expect me to do cartwheels at a time like this or they wont leave me alone, thinking im on drugs or something meh whatever.
However I found the Catholic church entertaining somewhat and very boring at the same time, I'm not used to repetitious praying in unison and verbatim and all that plus I had to strain to keep my eyes from closing.
He had good words to say I liked the sermon and I felt my aunt had a very very respectful and intimate funeral.
Yup, hopefully things will pick up but this summer heat isnt helping cause my car just decided its not going to give me ac or even blow at all anymore... doo doo doo
