I've had A LOT of brain surgeries. And recovery right now is so hard!! I'm in so much pain.
I even went to the ER last night and guess what they said was wrong? GAS?!?! Ugh so angry. I hate the doctors here. They are so DUMB. 
I've had A LOT of brain surgeries. And recovery right now is so hard!! I'm in so much pain.
Praying for you that it's nothing major and you're able to get treated quickly and effectively.
They really don't have much. They have enough for retirement and they have a pension from his dad's job and military, but it's not enough to cover part-time caregivers. That's why I want to figure this out now. Just because they're not the greatest people doesn't mean we get to abandon care of them and I hope and pray my husband can see that and that we have some serious conversations with them. I want them to be ok.
That would be the gas they put into you for surgery. I've had that before and it is really painful, but thankfully does go away within a few days. Hang in there!I've had A LOT of brain surgeries. And recovery right now is so hard!! I'm in so much pain.
I don't think they have anything planned. That's the problem. My FIL doesn't really want to talk about it. In general, he avoids most anything to do with heavy responsibility...like parenting, caring for his disabled son and making plans for the future. They may have a living will, but I kind of doubt it. My MIL is the frugal well-planned one, but she more or less operates for her own needs and anything to do with them jointly as a couple tends to just kinda go on the back burner or only done halfway. It's a mess. I'm hoping my hubby will step up and talk to them, but he takes after his father in the way of confrontation and dealing with difficult things in relationships. It's hard for them being on the spectrum.
Unfortunately due to how they are they really don't have a lot of people. MIL does have a younger sister who is more abled than she is who lives locally, and FIL has a younger sister who is also local who he is on good terms with and she is in somewhat better health than he is. Hubby has a couple of cousins who may be willing to help. I would like to be able to *mostly* hand them off to those I know are more capable of handling the situation. I don't want it to force us to stay here.
Thank you, I appreciate that. I just thought it was kids' responsibility to take care of the parents when they're older and if we're so far from here and his parents don't do online stuff I feel like it'll be a lot harder. But you are right. It is their responsibility to figure that stuff out. As we age we will ensure that our affairs are in order for whoever may be in charge of handling our affairs if we become incapable or pass away, and I suppose his parents should also do that.
Yep that's exactly it. I want them cared for in a respectable, kind way and to make sure their funerals are paid for and my BIL's housing is situated and such but I don't want to have to do any of the caretaking. We need to get out of here.