Well.....
Truthfully, I've always been incredibly blessed. Never lacking for health, friends, money.... Amazing parents, great family, even siblings that I love and love me. My school and work life have been great. I mean, I could mention some things but they are so tiny, so small, I'm embarrassed to mention them, especially in a thread where others will mention big things. I AM appreciative, know this ain't usual. And I'm certainly NOT deserving.
On the other hand, I've so often been told that "we grow in tough times" and even "If everything is going right in your life, the devil isn't concerned about you." Lots of stuff like that. And frankly, sometimes I worry that something big will happen - and I'll find myself completely unprepared, with inadequate coping tools in place. I HOPE I learn vicariously... I have strong faith.... and a wonderful family... but.... I PURPOSELY read books about survivors and I know the reason, I want to learn from them. And when others are faced with issues, I can listen and I can pray but I sure cannot say "been there" or really know what would be helpful.
And I try to be appreciative, knowing grace has come my way in super-abundance, all undeserved.
My grandpa (now in heaven) was much adored and we often talked. I was maybe 15 or so when we talked about this. I remember well his response: Everyone is dealt a hand of cards in life... some get an terrible hand dealt to them through no fault of their own, and some get an amazingly good hand dealt to them through no merit of their own. But the key to life is not in what hand you got but how you play that hand. I think about that.
Josiah
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