"Total depravity" is a doctrinal tern of Calvinists and has a different meaning from depravity known to most.
I don't know for sure what total they talk about but for the most part being born without hope bar a miracle ( of rebirth) is the state one is in.
Understanding Total Depravity as taught in Calvinism (from the Heidelberg Catechism of 1563):
Q. What does God’s law require of us?
A. Christ teaches us this in summary in Matthew 22:37-40:
“‘You shall love the Lord your God
with all your heart,
and with all your soul,
and with all your mind.’1
This is the greatest and first commandment.
“And a second is like it:
‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’2
“On these two commandments hang
all the law and the prophets.”
1) Deut. 6:5
2) Lev. 19:18
Q. Can you live up to all this perfectly?
A. No.1
I have a natural tendency
to hate God and my neighbor.2
1) Rom. 3:9-20, 23; 1 John 1:8, 10
2) Gen. 6:5; Jer. 17:9; Rom. 7:23-24; 8:7; Eph. 2:1-3; Titus 3:3
Q. Did God create people
so wicked and perverse?
A. No.
God created them good1 and in his own image,2
that is, in true righteousness and holiness,3
so that they might
truly know God their creator,4
love him with all their heart,
and live with God in eternal happiness,
to praise and glorify him.5
1) Gen. 1:31
2) Gen. 1:26-27
3) Eph. 4:24
4) Col. 3:10
5) Ps. 8
Q. Then where does this corrupt human nature come from?
A. The fall and disobedience of our first parents,
Adam and Eve, in Paradise.1
This fall has so poisoned our nature2
that we are all conceived and born
in a sinful condition.3
1) Gen. 3
2) Rom. 5:12, 18-19
3) Ps. 51:5
Q. But are we so corrupt
that we are totally unable to do any good
and inclined toward all evil?
A. Yes,1 unless we are born again
by the Spirit of God.2
1) Gen. 6:5; 8:21; Job 14:4; Isa. 53:6
2) John 3:3-5