DISCLAIMER..... I have zero special knowledge of such things and I'm certain less insight than most. But like all, I certainly have among my circle of friends several with a "same sex orientation."
Two thoughts.....
1. It appears most are simply born ("wired" lol) toward heterosexuality. Biologically, this seems predictable (a species existence depends on it, lol). And I don't think one can change this no matter what (I'm certain that's the case with me). I do think this is the "norm" (but that doesn't equate to "normal"). I think some (I suspect it's a LOT less than some would have us think) are the opposite: they are oriented to the same gender. I've read this could be about 1-2% of the male population, probably less among the females. While this is not the norm (in that it is very rare and since counter-productive in terms of biology) I would not equate it with abnormal. I think we're talking a fairly small percentage. I understand this is found in many mammals, not just humans. And it's found throughout history and in all cultures - sometimes openly, sometimes very secretively. MY evaluation is simply: what is, is. Not much more.
2. I SUSPECT there are some who are bi-sexual, but who may "lean" toward one (in the vast majority of cases, to the other gender); they have some same gender "feelings" although it may be overwhelmed by other gender feelings. I've read that some mammals become same gender when deprived of the other gender - and this perhaps simply shows this bisexual quality in some. I have no clue what percentage of the population we're talking about, and since the range of such is VAST, it might be impossible to determine the percentage. This IS a "choice" but I doubt it's ever a "free choice" in that one simply equally chooses between two options that they see before them, but obviously society has a large impact on this. I suspect there is a huge range of such bisexuality - from equally strong to perhaps never perceived at all. And I wonder if it doesn't present itself primarily among teens who are "figuring it out" and perhaps are doing the "choosing" (however unconsciencely). I wonder, too, is this isn't what's behind the "convert" stories (actually, one is just changing which orientation they are running with) and also why (especially in the past) people often married, had kids and a perfectly normal marriage sex life even though perhaps they had same-sex feelings, too. Again, there is "choice" here (choosing which orientation to go with) but I doubt this is ever a "free" one but a very, very complex thing that may not even be full or final. IMO, this reality is circumvented because of that difficult "choice" issue - no one wants to deal with that, thus everyone likes to frame the entire discussion in terms of the biological absolutes in #1 above.
I earlier posted to the issue....
- Josiah
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