Cremated remains

[Jazzy]

A person’s cremated remains are often given to their children and then passed on to their grandchildren. But what happens to them once they begin to be handed down to generations who never even knew the person?

 

[Messy]

They may end up in a thrift store, when they throw everything out.

 

[tango]

A person’s cremated remains are often given to their children and then passed on to their grandchildren. But what happens to them once they begin to be handed down to generations who never even knew the person?

I guess it depends on the family. I don't know that I'd want cremated remains in my house. Yes, they were people I loved very dearly when they were alive but having some ashes in my house isn't going to bring them back.

 

[Albion]

I guess it depends on the family. I don't know that I'd want cremated remains in my house. Yes, they were people I loved very dearly when they were alive but having some ashes in my house isn't going to bring them back.

It's almost ghoulish, many people would say, although I'm sure that keeping an urn with the ashes close by is a source of comfort for other folks.

What I really can't appreciate is the idea of spreading the ashes over the sea or across a golf course or something like that, which is done because "that's what he (the deceased) liked." To me, doing this sort of thing has no meaning except that what remains of the physical, tangible, part of the loved one is forever obliterated.

As for passing an urn with ashes down to later generations to hold and revere...no, those people will most likely either scatter the contents somewhere or other, which is most likely against the law, or else they'll pay for a plot in some cemetery which has set aside a section for that purpose.

 

[Origen]

Columbarium - a room or building with niches for funeral urns to be stored. There are both outdoor and indoor columbarium.

 

[tango]

It's almost ghoulish, many people would say, although I'm sure that keeping an urn with the ashes close by is a source of comfort for other folks.

What I really can't appreciate is the idea of spreading the ashes over the sea or across a golf course or something like that, which is done because "that's what he (the deceased) liked." To me, doing this sort of thing has no meaning except that what remains of the physical, tangible, part of the loved one is forever obliterated.

As for passing an urn with ashes down to later generations to hold and revere...no, those people will most likely either scatter the contents somewhere or other, which is most likely against the law, or else they'll pay for a plot in some cemetery which has set aside a section for that purpose.

I saw a meme recently that said if you were cremated you could be put into an hourglass and still join in family game nights....

 

[Stravinsk]

It's almost ghoulish, many people would say, although I'm sure that keeping an urn with the ashes close by is a source of comfort for other folks.

What I really can't appreciate is the idea of spreading the ashes over the sea or across a golf course or something like that, which is done because "that's what he (the deceased) liked." To me, doing this sort of thing has no meaning except that what remains of the physical, tangible, part of the loved one is forever obliterated.

As for passing an urn with ashes down to later generations to hold and revere...no, those people will most likely either scatter the contents somewhere or other, which is most likely against the law, or else they'll pay for a plot in some cemetery which has set aside a section for that purpose.

The physical, tangible part of a person, at least that which we relate to when they were living, does not cease when they begin to rot in the ground or when they are turned to ash through cremation. It ceases at their death. I know this from personal experience. Within minutes of my wife dying, I kissed her forehead to say goodbye. In movies and entertainment these are moments of sadness and last goodbyes. In real life it is something different. I immediately regretted kissing a corpse. It felt intensely wrong and ugly. I do not imagine for a moment an urn of ashes would be any more comforting even if I actually touched the ash.