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  1. ValleyGal

    Medical marijuana

    Solution: de-criminalize marijuana. I could have four non-medicinal cannabis plants in my home for personal use, as can every home in BC, no matter how many adults live in the home. This removes the whole idea of "big pharma" getting all the money. People can go to dispensaries where the growth...
  2. ValleyGal

    Talking to people

    Alcohol has a way of lowering inhibitions. lol. Talking to others is a whole lot easier if you learn to ask good questions. Pop in a good question, then let them chat away while you just sit back and listen. Of course, if they are a good conversationalist, they will fire of a good question...
  3. ValleyGal

    A child throwing a tantrum in public

    The child is trying to send a message to the caregivers and it is up to them to figure out what the message is. When I taught a parenting program, I would use the following scenario to demonstrate. You take your child to the park and play for a time, partly child plays alone and partly you join...
  4. ValleyGal

    Dating after 30

    As I stated, we ALL have serious baggage. We all have attachments and social contexts as infants, toddlers, children, adolescents, and young adults. We all have both inherited and learned traits that we bring to relationships, some of which are family dynamics passed from generation to...
  5. ValleyGal

    Dating after 30

    Dating after 30 was really easy for me even as a single mom after husband number one left. I was pretty, fit, financially stable, fun and active. I had no problems attracting men. My problem was not choosing one who would be worth keeping. My "baggage" (we ALL come with baggage, btw) was well...
  6. ValleyGal

    Being overweight

    Personal responsibility has nothing to do with other factors that are beyond control. I'm pretty sure I mentioned that several posts ago. However, there seems to be no talking to people who continue to use derogatory language and judgements. Sometimes I think people like to argue just for the...
  7. ValleyGal

    Being overweight

    I get it if you don't get it. But my first husband and I had friends - they were a couple, each weighed about 500 lbs. Actually I think he was closer to 600. Anyway, He wheezed a little, but he could keep up with my husband - a 160-lb man less than half our friends' age - when they prepared...
  8. ValleyGal

    Being overweight

    Again, for many people, it is not so easy as calories in and calories out, or simply making the decision to walk or run. I know people who eat virtually nothing - even 500 lb active men - who can't lose an ounce. I also know women who spent 8 hours a day exercising to lose lipedema fat from...
  9. ValleyGal

    The law of attraction

    We've been divorced for several years and have been friends for the last half of that. Not so much anymore.... not since he continues to insult me. We will not be friends in the future because I know now that he will continue to insult me even as a friend. I need better friends than that.
  10. ValleyGal

    The law of attraction

    My ex and I were still married when I started looking for a dog. Eventually he asked me why I want a dog. I told him it's because it would be nice to have SOME body get excited to see me when I come home from work (being the only one in the family to earn an income). Instead of taking the hint...
  11. ValleyGal

    Being overweight

    You are you, and you have the inner and external resources to do something about it. Again, there are a LOT o obese people who simply don't have those same resources, especially if it is due to conditions beyond their control. And yes, mental health concerns can be beyond someone's control -...
  12. ValleyGal

    Being overweight

    "People like that" are often using food as a means of self-regulation. Sure, a lot of people could make better decisions, but you are correct that it is a myriad of different reasons for the choices people do make. Poverty, lack of education about healthy choices, inability to cook, convenience...
  13. ValleyGal

    The law of attraction

    I forgive my exes. Doesn't mean I need to soften my heart to them. Or trust men until they prove themselves trustworthy.
  14. ValleyGal

    Trust issues

    Each time I married and ultimately divorced, I lost the ability to trust. My ability to trust was damaged when my family and best friend at the time talked smack behind my back and then spread lies about me based on their own assumptions. It was again damaged when I was formally accused of...
  15. ValleyGal

    Being overweight

    The worst thing for me about being overweight are the assumptions and judgement people make about why I am overweight. People think it's as simple as calories in, calories burned. But as research shows, it is much more complex than that because each body metabolizes certain things differently...
  16. ValleyGal

    The law of attraction

    My heart is not hard against God; it is against the exes who misled me, didn't keep their word (either lied when they made vows or did not have the integrity to keep them), and let in destruction into our marriages. And of course I'm angry with myself for being misled. It's not just husbands...
  17. ValleyGal

    The law of attraction

    No, but I have the choice as to whether I keep them there. I chose not to keep two of my exes in my life and I tried very hard to keep the other two in my life. Unfortunately, people don't always mean what they say, and they are no longer in my life. Of course he knows. But just because he...
  18. ValleyGal

    King Charles' coronation

    Camilla was never a princess and never had that title. She was titled Duchess of Cornwall. There is a difference between a queen and queen consort. A queen is one who is in direct royal lineage. Charlotte could one day be queen because she has royal blood. A queen consort is someone who is...
  19. ValleyGal

    The law of attraction

    Don't we? I could have recognized what was happening and said no. In fact, not long after agreeing to marry the one who beat me, he became very angry with one of his sons and got right in his face, pointing a finger. Later on I actually asked one of the kids if he had ever been abusive to them...
  20. ValleyGal

    King Charles' coronation

    Queen consort was not her title prior to Queen E's death. Prior to Queen E's death, Camilla was Duchess of Cornwall, and some time around her jubilee, Queen E expressed her wish that Camilla would be called Queen Consort when Charles ascended to the throne, as opposed to "Princess" (Philip had...
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