The law of attraction

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I forgive my exes. Doesn't mean I need to soften my heart to them. Or trust men until they prove themselves trustworthy.
 

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I forgive my exes. Doesn't mean I need to soften my heart to them. Or trust men until they prove themselves trustworthy.
I really forgave one, but he was also sorry and we're friends now and raise the kids together. I forgave the next one, but he was not sorry and I never see him anymore. The sociopath, I forgave him because you have to and to free myself and obey God, but no way I would talk to him. I blocked him everywhere since I dumped him with my superb sarcasm. He now found a new victim. I don't want him to go to hell, so that's enough loving tenderness for today lol. After my 2nd divorce I asked God if I should go back to my first ex (who did not want that), 2nd ex or if I could go find a third and He said: Marry Me. Time is short. They were marrying and giving into marriage. I said if that is what You really want I want it to be romantic and I want to see Your Face. That night I had a dream of Jesus and me on a sail ship and He was the Captain.
I think it was always idolatry for me. I had to have a man. When I was 19 and whining to God to get a man, He gave a personal Word via a guy my mom went to: This I hope and long for, that the relationship with Me will come on the first place for you.
The woman at the well had 5 men and now was with another and she started a revival in her town.
Jesus almost comes back, Mr. Right, best wedding ever. Why would I give my heart to some man? The kids don't want it either. My son said: Mom you have horrible taste in men. Please stay single. We don't want some guy here who's gonna change all the rules. But I had to have someone to love and cuddle, so I went to the pet shop and bought a rabbit. Give him a bag of hay and he's happy. He has no demands and he's always cute.
 

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so I went to the pet shop and bought a rabbit.
My ex and I were still married when I started looking for a dog. Eventually he asked me why I want a dog. I told him it's because it would be nice to have SOME body get excited to see me when I come home from work (being the only one in the family to earn an income). Instead of taking the hint and welcoming me home with a hug and kiss, HE found me a dog. One more rejection on a heap of rejections.

I thought we were friends, but he most recently heaped a bunch of insults on me that he struggled to justify. Very sad, really, because I was actually starting to think we had finally gotten past all the bad stuff from the marriage and that maybe, just maybe, he finally started to have a little respect for me. Obviously not, and I don't need friends who feed an insulting attitude towards me.

I don't need a man. Most of my adult life has been on my own anyway, but I would like to find a good friend that I can spend time with and whose company I enjoy (and who enjoys mine), who is a good conversationalist and engaging.

The law of attraction, though goes much further than just the kind of people we hang around with or marry. It's about karma; what goes around comes around, we reap what we sow. I sowed a lot of kindness, generosity, compassion, care, friendship, time, focus. I made social investments, but ended up with very little ROI.
 

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My ex and I were still married when I started looking for a dog. Eventually he asked me why I want a dog. I told him it's because it would be nice to have SOME body get excited to see me when I come home from work (being the only one in the family to earn an income). Instead of taking the hint and welcoming me home with a hug and kiss, HE found me a dog. One more rejection on a heap of rejections.

I thought we were friends, but he most recently heaped a bunch of insults on me that he struggled to justify. Very sad, really, because I was actually starting to think we had finally gotten past all the bad stuff from the marriage and that maybe, just maybe, he finally started to have a little respect for me. Obviously not, and I don't need friends who feed an insulting attitude towards me.

I don't need a man. Most of my adult life has been on my own anyway, but I would like to find a good friend that I can spend time with and whose company I enjoy (and who enjoys mine), who is a good conversationalist and engaging.

The law of attraction, though goes much further than just the kind of people we hang around with or marry. It's about karma; what goes around comes around, we reap what we sow. I sowed a lot of kindness, generosity, compassion, care, friendship, time, focus. I made social investments, but ended up with very little ROI.
Maybe you can be friends somewhere in the future. There's still too much hurt.
 

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Maybe you can be friends somewhere in the future. There's still too much hurt.
We've been divorced for several years and have been friends for the last half of that. Not so much anymore.... not since he continues to insult me. We will not be friends in the future because I know now that he will continue to insult me even as a friend. I need better friends than that.
 
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