Hardest part of being single

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What’s your least favorite/hardest part of being single?
 

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Having to play my dad to make the teens behave, which doesn't work of course, while if their dad says anything it's just yes dad and they behave perfectly. My son said yesterday: if you had stayed married to dad you would never have had to deal with this. Something like youngest throwing water on the floor, absolutely no way he would do that with his dad. It's annoying to always have to obey a man, but on the other hand I'm sometimes jealous how relaxed my mom's life was. She could always be the sweet mom and dad played the bad cop. Zillion times easier with kids, but also irritating, cause you have no freedom.
 

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What’s your least favorite/hardest part of being single?
Finding a partner who simply accepts, loves and respects me for me, who chooses to spend time with me because he wants to and enjoys my company, someone who pursues me, who is my best friend, gets social with me outside my house and doesn't just sit at coffee shops without engaging or saying anything. Finding a partner who will go on the same spiritual journey with me, have some life goals with me, integrates our lives together. Someone who has/makes his own money and contributes to the relationship just as much as I do. Someone who is kind, honest, faithful, mentally and emotionally healthy, and cares about his community enough to invest his time, treasure and talent to it. And finally, someone who is not afraid to commit, to the exclusion of all others (in a romantic relationship, that is - even the wishes of a romantic relationship with someone else).

A good man is very, very hard to find. I've only known two such men in all my life.
 

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I've been single so long now it's easier to talk about the benefits. There's a lot of freedom, for one. Since becoming a widower, I've found that many women want/expect a lot more than I am willing/able to provide. Nope, I won't be getting a job that pays X because she has standards that are mostly related to her materialism and social vanity. Nope, I will certainly not adopt your particular brand of faith. It's nice not to have to celebrate religious holidays I don't believe in. It's nice that if I don't like my in-laws, I don't have to see them.

Jealousy, the agony of being cheated on, heated arguments and the intense hatred/spite/insecurity that can characterize some relationships is also absent.

Is she a Vegan? No? Oh right, so now we're paying for unnecessary meat, dairy and eggs. Which I have to smell on her. Then the extra $$ for pharma products to mask the symptoms of her colds and flu's - which mostly come from animal product consumption. A corporate television watcher? Oh geez, now I'll get to hear about the latest propaganda she was hypnotized into believing.

Speaking of propaganda. When the whole Covid garbage was being spewed 24/7 on television and radio I did not ONCE see a couple without masks. Even if he didn't want to, or she didn't, one of them was a coward and pressured the other. The only people that were brave enough to stand up to the bs appeared to be individuals.

Holy crap, and has she had the clot-shot? I shiver at being intimate with someone who has tiny robots in their blood and a massive increased risk of heart attacks, strokes, and cancer.

Ok, on the flip side...what sucks about being single:

Loneliness. I'm a loner and have been most of my life, but it does become acutely painful at times.
Sex. Nuff said.
Having someone around that loves and cares for you is a great blessing.

It's said it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. To be honest, I don't know. I know what it's like to lose love and it's so painful and lasting calling the balance is tough.
 

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Sex. Nuff said.
You sure about that? I feel like there should really be more to be said about this, as it is the biggest stumbling block for single Christian males.
 

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I've been single so long now it's easier to talk about the benefits. There's a lot of freedom, for one. Since becoming a widower, I've found that many women want/expect a lot more than I am willing/able to provide. Nope, I won't be getting a job that pays X because she has standards that are mostly related to her materialism and social vanity. Nope, I will certainly not adopt your particular brand of faith. It's nice not to have to celebrate religious holidays I don't believe in. It's nice that if I don't like my in-laws, I don't have to see them.

Jealousy, the agony of being cheated on, heated arguments and the intense hatred/spite/insecurity that can characterize some relationships is also absent.

Is she a Vegan? No? Oh right, so now we're paying for unnecessary meat, dairy and eggs. Which I have to smell on her. Then the extra $$ for pharma products to mask the symptoms of her colds and flu's - which mostly come from animal product consumption. A corporate television watcher? Oh geez, now I'll get to hear about the latest propaganda she was hypnotized into believing.

Speaking of propaganda. When the whole Covid garbage was being spewed 24/7 on television and radio I did not ONCE see a couple without masks. Even if he didn't want to, or she didn't, one of them was a coward and pressured the other. The only people that were brave enough to stand up to the bs appeared to be individuals.

Holy crap, and has she had the clot-shot? I shiver at being intimate with someone who has tiny robots in their blood and a massive increased risk of heart attacks, strokes, and cancer.

Ok, on the flip side...what sucks about being single:

Loneliness. I'm a loner and have been most of my life, but it does become acutely painful at times.
Sex. Nuff said.
Having someone around that loves and cares for you is a great blessing.

It's said it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. To be honest, I don't know. I know what it's like to lose love and it's so painful and lasting calling the balance is tough.
The more I read what you write, the more based you are. :D

I am single for 6-7 years and at first it was hard for me because once you get used to sex and being close to your partner in every way, it is hard. Now, I managed to self-control myself in terms of sexual needs. I no longer crave for sex in a shallow way. I miss making love.
Being alone can hit hard when you feel sad and there is no partner to talk to or just hug with.
 
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