. My LCMS church says she had other kids, saying her perpetual virginity is not Biblical.
Your Lutheran pastor is permitted to hold to that opinion, but it is NOT the official stance of the LCMS (or any other Lutheran group that I know of).
Lutheranism does not have an official doctrine on this ONE WAY OR THE OTHER. Here again, my friend, you seem to be confusing the opinion of some Lutherans with Lutheranism (or more specifically, the LCMS). Our Confessions are SILENT on this (although Mary is referred to as the "always virgin" in the Latin a couple of times but it's just using the usual title, there's no embrace of such a doctrine).
But it is true that Lutherans generally embraced the view well into the 20th Century. Luther held to it... as did all the Lutheran "fathers." Francis Pieper (who wrote the classic doctrine book used in LCMS seminaries for at least 60 years - the books likely your pastor read for doctrine) holds to the view of the PVM. And as I understand it, Lutheran pastors generally held to this well into the 1970's. BUT (for reasons unknown to me), it's fallen out of favor in the past 50 years or so.
This is generally understood as
PIOUS OPINION. "PIous opinion" is a view that is NEITHER affirmed or denied by Scripture.... but DOES have ancient and ecumenical ("catholic") support... it's something virtually all Christians have always believed.... it is a matter of common Christian faith. BUT since it is not affirmed by Scripture, it's not considered dogma - something that must be taught and believed. Your LCMS pastor is ALLOWED to hold that Mary had sex... but he is not allowed to require others agree with him. And he would be discouraged to teach this (as in sermons, for example) as TRUTH but he is welcomed to do so as his OPINION.
If you want to embrace the PVM you are welcomed to do so, as a member of the LCMS. IF you don't want to, you are welcomed to do so as a member of the LCMS. Neither view is dogmatically required. Just be careful that you do not condemn others who hold to the other view... including your pastor.
I was reading about this on Got Questions? and they raise good points that Mary had other kids
The Bible NEVER states this. Tradition never states this. This is a VERY new opinion that is based on modern views of sex and marriage and has zero support in Scripture or Tradition. COULD it be possible she had other children? Biblically, yes. Could it be she did not? Biblically yes... and that's what Tradition held until very recently.
Blessings!
- Josiah
PS My OWN
pious opinion on this? Doesn't matter.... really none of our business.
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