Side comment.....
I have been a part of inter-denominational discussion forums since I was 10 years old. I have WAY, WAY too many posts at at least 20 different websites (primarily 5), tens of thousands. I've been on staff (including training and supervising mods). And yes - there are JERKS at nearly all of them and SADLY rules and actions are NEEDED for them. But they are few..... usually very few. MOST posters are good people.... Christians. A bit too passionate at times, a bit too quick to hit the "post" icon, maybe conveying things online they would not in person. We ALL (me above all) need a bit of loving, Christian admonition and reminders. HOW this is done is often more inportant than IF it's done; a spirit of humility and love and helpfulness are KEY (things I always tried to remember when on staff, and always stressed when training staff).... often HOW admonition is given is more important than IF it is given..... the spirit of such matters more than the wording of rules. MOST of the time, properly approached, Christians admit their error and TRY to do better..... often they will edit what they posted voluntarily.... often they will apologize.
And - while not NEARLY as important as attitude/spirit - process matters. Matthew 18:15ff should be memorized by all before allowed to post, lol. ALL this can be done PRIVATELY, with PM's, without involving the staff or the community, and I think it better when so done. MOST of the time, this works. Nearly always when JERKS are not involved. I TRIED (with all my heart and energy) to convey this at CF when I was there but the power-politics, the WAR, the obsession with power and control and lordship there, made this concept not only impossible but passionately objectable.
"It is good when brothers dwell in unity." "Do not let the sun go down on your anger." "Be ministers of reconciliation." I've actually found this HAPPENS, this WORKS.... even amongst spirited, passionate posters. And I always rejoice in it. And when I witness it, I'm powerfully reminded that this must be MY vocation, too..... when emotions overwhelm me, when I'm offended and when I offend. Lessons taught.... and hopefully learned.
Sorry....
Pax
- Josiah