When finding a life partner,

[Jazzy]

how important is the feeling of being in love vs having aligned goals/plans for the future?

 

[Josiah]

I believe in love.... I'm a big fan of love.... Love is a great thing.

But in my experience, it often flows FROM shared friendship, respect, values, hearts...

Love in marriage obviously needs to be more than lust (eros) - which is amazingly easy. Much more important are phileo (friendship, respect, support, kidship) and especially agape (unconditional, having each other's back, forgiving, working, not feeling driven). The last two ain't so easy and certainly not automatic.



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