When choosing a life partner
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They don't listen to their parents. They fall for a nice face. They fall for sliming. They ignore what God says. They put the partner on nr.1 instead of God. They're naive. They're crazy themselves: 0.56
Haven't dealt with hurts from their past. Are way too different. Different culture, different way of being raised. One was abused as a kid and hasn't gotten over it. They go for someone who just accepts their money and lets em do all the work. They don't listen to whoever who very clearly sees the red flag parade, cause they don't wear pink colored glasses.
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Confusing sex with love would be on the list.... Some think that lust = love and is the essence of marital love.
And on the list would be thinking marriage is just friends with benefits... it is a BOND, a connection at the most fundamental level, "and the two shall be one."
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And on the list would be thinking marriage is just friends with benefits... it is a BOND, a connection at the most fundamental level, "and the two shall be one."
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Thinking "I'll change him/her". If there's something you really can't stand about your boyfriend/girlfriend don't think it will be any less annoying once you've been married a decade or more. If it's really that infuriating you probably won't last a decade let alone a lifetime.
Overlooking huge issues because of something else. Many years ago the soccer player Wayne Rooney was in the press a lot and many of his appearances made it very clear he was treating his girlfriend very badly. But she put up with it for a long time, presumably because he had money and lots of it. I don't know if they ever got married or if she grew a spine and dumped him.
Not being willing to compromise. If you're fundamentally incompatible it's better to break up before you get married or even move in together. If you don't it just makes it messier later on. If you're not willing to give on one point you can't expect your partner to give on other comparable point.
Forgetting that sometimes the small things are the big things. Your partner chewing very loudly that bothers you at Every. Single. Mealtime. It won't be any less troublesome 15 years from now. If you decide you can't live with that, you might as well go your separate ways than end up hating someone over something so small.
Overlooking huge issues because of something else. Many years ago the soccer player Wayne Rooney was in the press a lot and many of his appearances made it very clear he was treating his girlfriend very badly. But she put up with it for a long time, presumably because he had money and lots of it. I don't know if they ever got married or if she grew a spine and dumped him.
Not being willing to compromise. If you're fundamentally incompatible it's better to break up before you get married or even move in together. If you don't it just makes it messier later on. If you're not willing to give on one point you can't expect your partner to give on other comparable point.
Forgetting that sometimes the small things are the big things. Your partner chewing very loudly that bothers you at Every. Single. Mealtime. It won't be any less troublesome 15 years from now. If you decide you can't live with that, you might as well go your separate ways than end up hating someone over something so small.
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I'm no expert on relationships or matchmaking but I don't think I made many mistakes when I chose my partner. She was good for me and to me. Of course there were little annoyances but that comes with the territory.
That being said, I was a different person then and I wouldn't make the same choice today, nor would I have made a similar choice nearly 20 years ago (or all that time in-between) after she died.
This was always a rub over on the other board in the Singles section. Between the fat chics that posted there and the super large Admin that overlooked it. My wife died as a direct result from a lifetime of bad eating habits. I've outlived her now nearly 20 years and I drink and smoke, which she did not. I would not choose another partner that abused her body with food like she did. Call it shallow. I call it experience. A very hurtful one.
That being said, I was a different person then and I wouldn't make the same choice today, nor would I have made a similar choice nearly 20 years ago (or all that time in-between) after she died.
This was always a rub over on the other board in the Singles section. Between the fat chics that posted there and the super large Admin that overlooked it. My wife died as a direct result from a lifetime of bad eating habits. I've outlived her now nearly 20 years and I drink and smoke, which she did not. I would not choose another partner that abused her body with food like she did. Call it shallow. I call it experience. A very hurtful one.