Talking to people

[Jazzy]

I'm very shy and find it awkward talking to people I don't know.

How do/did you gain confidence in talking to people?

 

[Lamb]

I hate talking to people too, even ones I know can be awkward.

Having my daughter is what helped me the most, because it forced me to talk to people. I had to talk to doctors, the photographers at Walmart (cheap pics back in the day), people who randomly came up to talk to us because my daughter was so cute and always smiling, etc. It gave me practice, but I still prefer to type over talking.

 

[Messy]

I'm very shy and find it awkward talking to people I don't know.

How do/did you gain confidence in talking to people?

I didn't say a dumb word irl but I talked non stop to total strangers on internet and collegues said that they would like it if I talked more and I was like really? So since then I don't care anymore. Ppl irl are not more scary than ppl online. And also I got over it when I got kids. It's like having a dog. You finally have something to talk about. The funniest thing is that now younger collegues sometimes don't say a word to me and I'm like: whut? You're shy? Lol. I was always the shy one. Or else beer. Lately we went to a cafe with the office. I was talking non stop with this collegue I had never talked to because we had beer lol. So funny. He's also quite quiet but now quack quack quack, as if we were best friends.

 

[Josiah]

I have a hard time shutting up.


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[ValleyGal]

I was talking non stop with this collegue I had never talked to because we had beer lol. So funny. He's also quite quiet but now quack quack quack, as if we were best friends.

Alcohol has a way of lowering inhibitions. lol.

Talking to others is a whole lot easier if you learn to ask good questions. Pop in a good question, then let them chat away while you just sit back and listen. Of course, if they are a good conversationalist, they will fire of a good question back at you, or otherwise invite conversation.

 

[Stravinsk]

I don't normally talk to strangers (in life) except when it's necessary or to exchange simple courtesies. Now that depends on how much of a stranger they are and if the subject is anything we share common ground on. For example, I used to serve at a local shop years ago and someone recognized me from there while I was shopping in a mall and struck up a conversation. Turned out we had similar thoughts on 9/11, the Covid scamdemic and some related stuff. It was a relief to discuss it with the like minded, as a great many people I come across I wouldn't bother.

In contrast, a person at a store I frequent - her and I got into a convo on Covid. This was 2020. She was shocked to hear my views. After that, I didn't bother when I came in (and still don't)...only exchanging normal courtesy's. She still wore a mask up until maybe 2 months ago (when mandates had been scrapped long before). Obviously this isn't a person I would feel comfortable talking to about anything controversial.

 

[Messy]

Alcohol has a way of lowering inhibitions. lol.

Talking to others is a whole lot easier if you learn to ask good questions. Pop in a good question, then let them chat away while you just sit back and listen. Of course, if they are a good conversationalist, they will fire of a good question back at you, or otherwise invite conversation.

That doesn't hurry up if you're both not talkers. A girl from church, I really liked her and we got along great as long as others were around to keep the conversation going, but we together, I kept feeling obliged to ask her questions to keep the conversation going. That was already hard. Then finally you come up w a question and get a one sentence answer. Lol reminds me of when my aunt called and I picked up the phone as a teen. She asked question after question and I said yes no. She said: You can say yes and no beautifully. Now give me your mom please lol.