Phileo Love vs Agapao Love

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The ancient Greek language, in which the New Testament was written, contains
three distinct nouns for "love." They are agape, storge, and eros. Of those three
ancient Geek nouns, only agape (ag-ah' pay) is in the New Testament so we need
not be concerned about the other two.

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Some have attempted to force storge into the New Testament by means of the Greek
noun astorgos (Rom 1:31
and 2Tim 3:3). However; astorgos doesn't mean love, it means the absence of natural affection; especially in regard to
one's own children-- a situation that can easily eventuate in a psychological condition known as Reactive Attachment Disorder.


Examples of agape are located at 1John 4:8 and 1John 4:16 where it's said that
God is love.

Agape has become a sort of sacred cow among Christians; and they typically quote
the entire spectrum of it from 1Cor 13:1-7.

But the entire spectrum of love tells us nothing of its particular nuances. In order to
discern the colors of agape we have to seek out passages where love is a verb.

The two primary colors of agape are agapao (ag-ap-ah'-o) and phileo (fil eh'-o). A
Strong's Concordance shows every verse in the New Testament where those verbs
are used; which is very handy for helping us to understand the spectrum of love.
However; the thing to note is that those two verbs are not interchangeable.

For example the colors red and blue, combined with other colors, make up the
spectrum of sunlight. But if we want a red house, we have to use red paint. If we
use blue paint, our house won't come out red because red and blue are not
interchangeable.

In like manner, agapao and phileo together make up the spectrum of love, but they
are not interchangeable-- phileo typically speaks of affection, whereas agapao
usually does not; if ever. For example:


John 21:15 . . So when they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter:
Simon; do you love me more than these?


» Some say that "these" refers to the other apostles, but I'm inclined to suspect that Jesus was referring to the sea,
and the fish they had just eaten, and to the boat, and to the tackle, and to the fishing business. Certainly all of that was
important to Peter seeing as how fishing was his life.


The Greek verb for "love" in that passage is agapao, which isn't necessarily an
affectionate kind of love, rather, it's related to things like preferences, loyalties, and
priorities. For example:


Matt 6:24 . . No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love
the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.


Luke 14:26 . . If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother,
his wife and children, his brothers and sisters-- yes, even his own life --he cannot
be my disciple.

The verb agapao is employed several times in the 13th, 14th, and 15th chapters of
John's gospel relative to Jesus and his apostles, and relative to the apostles among
themselves.

But then Jesus asked Peter:


John 21:17 . . Simon, do you love me?

That time "love" is translated from the Greek verb phileo which is a very different
kind of love than agapao.

Well, the thing is: agapao is more or less impersonal; whereas phileo is just the
opposite. It's an affectionate, bonding kind of love felt among best friends, lovers,
and kinfolk.

In other words: Peter wasn't asked what he thought of Jesus, rather, how he felt
about him, viz: Jesus' question was: Peter; do you like me?

Of course Jesus already knew how Peter felt about him, but Jesus wasn't satisfied
with knowing; he wanted Peter to come out with it, and he did.


John 21:17 . . He said: Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you.

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I'd imagine that expressing his feelings for Jesus was difficult for a rugged blue collar guy like Peter. I worked as a
professional welder for 40 years in shipyards and shops. Not many of the men I worked alongside were comfortable
talking about their feelings for each other.

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FAQ: Why does Titus 2:4-5 expect phileo love from wives while Eph 5:25-33
expects agapao love from husbands?


A: Phileo is typically related to one's affections, whereas agapao is typically related
to one's actions.

For example in the Ephesians passage, a husband's love for his wife is expressed by
taking her under his wing, viz: by providence, i.e. by protecting and providing for
her.

The love expected from a wife is quite a bit different. Hers is more about feelings
than providence. For example:

"Your desire shall be for your husband" (Gen 3:16)

That passage appears to me the very first prohibition against adultery. If so; then
phileo's use in Titus 2:4-5 is telling wives to be faithful and chaste, viz: not to share
their affections with other men; which has the benefit of ensuring that all her
children will be the offspring of the man she's married to.
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In an appendix to his commentary on John, brown looked at this. He looked at how the words are actually used in the NT. There didn’t appear to be a consistent difference. That doesn’t deny that the conceptual difference exists, but it is a warning against reading too much into the choice of Greek word.
 

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John 3:16 . . For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten son, that
whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life.

The Greek word translated "loved" in John 3:16 is conjugated from the verb
agapao, which tells me that God's love in that passage isn't especially divine
because the very same Greek verb is used in Luke 6:32, which says:

"If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those
who love them."

Every "love" in that verse is derived from agapao. Well; the very fact that sinners
are capable of agapao tells me that it would be a mistake to restrict its use solely to
God and/or to assume that agapao always, and in every instance, speaks of divine
attributes.
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When love lacks modifiers and/or verbs, it means very little in particular. For
example: my love for a man with a cardboard sign alongside the road is different
than my love for the girl I married. My love for the man is sympathy for a stranger,
whereas the love I have for my wife of forty-one years is affection for someone
special.

Those two differences are exemplified by John 3:16 and John 16:27 where it's on
display that God's love for the world is agapao, which is merely sympathetic,
whereas His love for Jesus' followers is expressed by phileo, which speaks of
fondness and affection-- two emotions that form strong bonds and attachments.
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There are times when Heaven's love is conditional; for example:

"If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love; just as I have kept my
Father's commandments, and abide in His love." (John 15:10)

The Greek noun translated "love" in that passage is agape, which is a nondescript
noun. In other words; agape alone doesn't tell me whether the love in view is
affectionate or non affectionate, i.e. phileo or agapao. For example John 3:16 which
says:

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever
believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

The love in that passage is conjugated from the Greek verb agapao, which informs
me that God experiences pity for the world without necessarily liking the world. This
is somewhat similar to the sympathy that many of us experience for a desperate
stranger with a cardboard sign that says "Lost job due to Covid 19"

And then there's this:

"Then Jesus, beholding him, loved him" (Mark 10:21)

The Greek word translated "love" in that passage is conjugated from phileo, which
basically speaks of affection, fondness, acceptance, and bonding. (cf. 1Sam 18:1)

Here's an hypothetical situation that breaks John 3:16 down to something practical.

Evangelist: Did you know that the Bible says God loves you?

Audience: God likes me?

Evangelist: Sorry, my bad. I should've been specific. I was asking if you were
aware that God pities you.

Audience: Pities me?! What's to pity?

Evangelist: You are on the road to a future that's so disagreeable Jesus said you'd
be better off dismembering a hand or gouging out an eye than to end up there.

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God pities the world's deplorable spiritual condition and offers a remedy for it (Luke 2:8-14) but that shouldn't
be construed to mean that He likes the world. In point of fact, God regrets its creation. (Gen 6:6)

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I Corinthians 13:1 kjv
1. Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
3. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4. Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5. Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6. Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7. Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
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Hopefully this helps with the nuances.

Two lists:
A. Not Agape (Probably brotherly / concrete)
Tongues of men
Of Prophecy (understand)
Faith to move mountains
Feed poor
Give my body to be burned

B. Agape (abstract inner man)
Long suffering (man does not like to suffer)
Kind
Not envious
No big ego
Not self promoting
Does not meditate on evil
Not happy about iniquity , but truth
Bears all things, believes all things, hopes for all things, endures all things.

IMHO
List A is human get it done actions (may be family, friends, those who treat you right.)

List B is a changed to a new nature list, that allows you you to go beyond your natural self, and deal with those who may oppose you.
God’s nature has to work these things in us.

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Romans 12:3 kjv
3. For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.

I am so glad this thread was started. For years and years the above scripture has been a half understood mystery to me. The previous post I did took all the faith I could muster.
2. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

In posting verse 2, I could not help but see the italicized (the gift). Part of my background would lead me to think the spiritual gifts, but here it sits in what I consider brotherly area.

The Pardes concept drifted in. Faith can be both Brotherly and Inner Spiritual. Enery man has a minute amounts amount of faith in the concept of faith (smaller than a mustard seed), but a very few men have it on a higher level from the Holy Spirit. Building something like the Panama Canal takes human faith. Fighting malaria, and other obstacles takes a measure of brotherly faith. Moving mountains of dirt is nothing compared to helping someone have eternal life. Seeing a man raised from the dead, by Jesus, is a higher level of faith from God. Seeing a man born again is still greater.

If I had not been in need of understanding the
I Corinthians 13:2 verse (the gift) I may have never have asked earnestly for the knowledge.

Thanks

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Enery man has a minute amounts amount of faith in the concept of faith (smaller than a mustard seed),

Not every man has faith or every man would be saved since we are saved by grace through faith.
 

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Not every man has faith or every man would be saved since we are saved by grace through faith.
I quoted;
Romans 12:3 kjv
3. For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.

Also IMHO
Romans 1:18 kjv
18. For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all unteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness;
19. Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.
20. For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, evenhis eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:

If people can be held accountable for not knowing God by what is hidden in creation, is not enough faith provided for them to ask what creation is saying? Can not God not answer their questions?

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