Parents charging rent

[Jazzy]

What are your thoughts about some parents charging rent to their own children after they turn 18?

 

[Lamb]

If the child has a decent job, still eats the food in the house, has mom do his/her laundry, etc...then yes, it's okay to charge the kid. But if the parents really want that child to move out, they can accept rent payment, then give it back to the kid when he/she finds an apartment and needs first and last month's rent as well as security deposit. Apartments cost $1,500 for a one bedroom where I live, so the up front money is outrageous.

 

[tango]

What are your thoughts about some parents charging rent to their own children after they turn 18?

It costs money to feed a child and sooner or later the child will have to pay the full costs of supporting themselves. It doesn't hurt to get used to the idea that living isn't free.

My parents charged me money towards household bills when I was working. It still came as a surprise when I set up home on my own and discovered just how much stuff wasn't there that I'd always taken for granted. When I went to make myself a sandwich the day I took the keys, only to find I had no bread, nothing to put in the sandwich, no plate to eat the sandwich, nothing. There had never been any need for me to have my own cutlery, crockery etc. So I spent a lot of time going back and forth getting some pretty basic stuff, figuring out as I went what was still missing.

 

[Josiah]

What are your thoughts about some parents charging rent to their own children after they turn 18?

IF they are going to school full time, I'm okay with free room and board. And in that case, they should contribute in terms of services.

Otherwise....


.

 

[ValleyGal]

I started charging room and board from my son when he turned 19 (age of majority where I live). It barely covered his food and his share of the bills, and then he could save the rest to put towards a place when he was ready. Throughout his teen years, I contributed to the male version of a "hope chest" so he had stuff when he moved out. Bathmat, shower curtain, towels, etc for Christmas one year; kitchen cutlery, cooking utensils, hot mats, oven gloves, etc for his birthday one year; sheets, pillows, blankets for another birthday.... you get the idea. He had almost everything except large furniture by the time he moved out, and was able to buy decent second hand furniture when it was time. So, joint effort.

 

[Messy]

What are your thoughts about some parents charging rent to their own children after they turn 18?

Depends on how much they earn. As long as it's not necessary I'd say let em live for free.

 

[Josiah]

It seems many of my generation are hesitant to leave the nest.... Like some young birds where mom needs to kick them out, well, I think that's the problem with some young people. It's just easier to live for free, to have Mom feed them and wash their dirty undies. And a lot of parents enable this... sometimes for their children well into their 30's! I know a LOT of people my age - guys and girls - in this situation.

Now, it's often difficult to distinguish between empowering and enabling. And parents (because of their unconditional love) are apt to find this especially difficult. BUT I think key is what is the adult child DOING about this? Do they have an exit plan and they are ACTIVELY WORKING on it? Going to school full time AND working part time? Do they just need some help with housing UNTIL they graduate or can save the deposit? OR are they just being dependent? Of the people I know still living at home in their 30's, EVERYONE could be off on their own, it seems to me. It's just easier to live at home, especially with the parents charging little to nothing, especting little or nothing in terms of contributing (gardening, etc.). and Mom washing the dirty undies. And I think sometimes, parents LIKE it this way - thus their willingness to enable.




.

 

[Messy]

It seems many of my generation are hesitant to leave the nest.... Like some young birds where mom needs to kick them out, well, I think that's the problem with some young people. It's just easier to live for free, to have Mom feed them and wash their dirty undies. And a lot of parents enable this... sometimes for their children well into their 30's! I know a LOT of people my age - guys and girls - in this situation.

Now, it's often difficult to distinguish between empowering and enabling. And parents (because of their unconditional love) are apt to find this especially difficult. BUT I think key is what is the adult child DOING about this? Do they have an exit plan and they are ACTIVELY WORKING on it? Going to school full time AND working part time? Do they just need some help with housing UNTIL they graduate or can save the deposit? OR are they just being dependent? Of the people I know still living at home in their 30's, EVERYONE could be off on their own, it seems to me. It's just easier to live at home, especially with the parents charging little to nothing, especting little or nothing in terms of contributing (gardening, etc.). and Mom washing the dirty undies. And I think sometimes, parents LIKE it this way - thus their willingness to enable.




.

When I was young you could go live with students with 18 or 19. I didn't even have a job. You got 650 govt money a month when you studied and the rent was first 195 and for a bigger room 350. We just lived cheap and it was doable, but these days a stupid room is 450 and they get far less than we got then plus there are not many rooms. Housing crisis. Why would you let your kid rent a room from someone else? Better to just live at home then. My nephew is almost 30. Has a good job. There's no house for him, so he lives at home. They have a big house luckily. He cooks for everyone. He really wants something for himself, but nowadays the prices for houses are insane.