Love Languages

[Krissy Cakes]

What is your love language? If you have a spouse, what is theirs?

 

[Krissy Cakes]

Mine is: Words of affirmation & Quality time

kingoftheunknown is: Quality time and Physical touch

 

[George]

Quality Time and Receiving Gifts.

 

[Lamb]

Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

 

[Krissy Cakes]

I've taken it again as the above was from a few years ago.

Your Scores
8 - Acts of Service
8 - Quality Time
8 - Words of Affirmation
5 - Physical Touch
1 - Receiving Gifts

 

[Josiah]

Time and touch, as I recall (been some time since I read that book and took that survey)

 

[Inkachu]

Physical touch (I really cannot fathom how anyone can feel intimately loved without being touched)
Quality time

Hubster is physical touch and... I forget the other

 

[Tigger]

My wife's is physical touch and mine is words of affirmation.

 

[Krissy Cakes]

Physical touch (I really cannot fathom how anyone can feel intimately loved without being touched)

Well if you were abused (as I was) physical touch can be a trigger.

 

[ValleyGal]

I think this can change. When I was on my own, I craved physical touch and so I scored high on it simply for the reason I had not been lovingly touched in a lot of years. Now that IDay and I have been married for a while now and I get enough touch (for the most part), my highest love language is words of affirmation. My next three are equal - acts of service, quality time and physical touch. Gifts is last. While those are my love languages, I deliberately try to speak all love languages in our marriage so we are balanced and one is not lacking.

 

[Josiah]

I too have experienced a change....

I'm old now (27) but when I was younger, I think TOUCH was probably # 1 (isn't it for all teenage boys, lol?) and probably WORDS of affirmation # 2 - I thrived on both. Now, TIME is definately #1 and I think words has dropped entirely off the list. I've simply changed. My soon-to-be-wife took the survey and had touch as #1 and time as #2. This difference has interesting results: She's quite confortable with public affection - wanting to hold hands, hug, etc. and that just isn't as important to me and I tend to see all that as intimate and private - which she sees as being ignored (or worse): we've had to talk and work that out. But both of us share TIME which is odd: we just like BEING together. Don't have to say or do a thing - just be together (one reason I'm rarely online in the evening). SHE'D like to cuddle, ME not so much - but again, we've worked that out. But to my point of change, yeah, a few years ago, I'D be the one pursuing touch.

I think THAT is the most important aspect of LOVE LANGUAGES: understanding the differences and how to work them out. I highly recommend the book to all couples.



Just MY fairly worthless thoughts....


Pax


- Josiah

 

[Inkachu]

Well if you were abused (as I was) physical touch can be a trigger.

That's understandable. However, I have a past of physical and emotional abuse, but that hasn't affected my longing for physical affection within the bounds of an intimate, trusting relationship. I don't like casual touch from strangers or people I'm not close to, but that's a whole different story. When we're talking about love languages, I'm referring to love shared with a spouse, not like love for a relative or friend, etc.

 

[Inkachu]

Josiah, where do you get off saying you're OLD when you're not even 30? LOL

It's definitely crucial that couples learn what's important to each others' security and feelings of being loved, and learn to not only do those things, but do them willingly, happily, and selflessly. Nobody wants to be "loved" by someone who dislikes what they're doing.