But that doesn't mean not to have any for self. A person can (and should) love themselves: Eph 5:29-30
"After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body." The churched (especially women) have traditionally been taught that we need to put others first, that others matter more than we do, etc. That's not okay because the truth is, we should also love ourselves as members of his body.
Personality. I lean towards introverted, serious, studious, intense, determined, compassionate, practical, loyal, dutiful, stubborn. Very stubborn.
Translation: I am absolutely no fun at all, terrible sense of humor, get angry at stupidity and shallowness, dig my heels in, couch potato. But I show up for work and friends.