How do you split the chores?

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How do you and your spouse split the chores around the house?
 

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I do them all!
 

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Over the years it has changed depending on who has more time. We typically have chores that each of us does more, but that doesn't mean the other person can't help
 

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well I do everything, sometimes he might wash the dishes, not to sure why tho as he doesn't usually make a very good job of it. so I do it again..lol.
 

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It is an alway changing thing around here. Hubby tends to do the dishes. We are doing a massive sort through everything we have to reduce the amount of junk we have and we are doing that together.
 

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I have physical disabilities and almost no stamina. I am unable to work at a job outside the home, which means he supports both of us. In fairness I should then do the housework, but if for some reason I can't, he has to fill in the blanks. I'll be able to do the laundry, empty the dishwasher, vacuum, clean the bathrooms, OR mop the kitchen floor, but no way could I do all of those in any one day. I'd be doing well on a good day to complete two of them. That makes me feel bad sometimes, when he has to come home from work and do chores, but he assures me he knows I'm doing my best. He's also pointed out that if he lived alone, he'd have to do everything himself anyway. It's nice that I'm able to help out even partially.

There is one chore I've taken over completely, though, and that's keeping the cat litter taken care of. He has a sensitive stomach and can hardly do it without gagging. It doesn't bother me, so I take care of it.
 

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I have physical disabilities and almost no stamina. I am unable to work at a job outside the home, which means he supports both of us. In fairness I should then do the housework, but if for some reason I can't, he has to fill in the blanks. I'll be able to do the laundry, empty the dishwasher, vacuum, clean the bathrooms, OR mop the kitchen floor, but no way could I do all of those in any one day. I'd be doing well on a good day to complete two of them. That makes me feel bad sometimes, when he has to come home from work and do chores, but he assures me he knows I'm doing my best. He's also pointed out that if he lived alone, he'd have to do everything himself anyway. It's nice that I'm able to help out even partially.

There is one chore I've taken over completely, though, and that's keeping the cat litter taken care of. He has a sensitive stomach and can hardly do it without gagging. It doesn't bother me, so I take care of it.

That is like me and right now they have me on meds that make very sleepy and dizzy but like you I try to help as best as I can.
 

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the wife, she allows me to do everything which i dont mind doing. laundry, its something i love doing for odd reason. though i leave the cooking to her. she trained at the CIA..culinary institute of america. i can only prep limited foods like soup, french toast and burritos lol
 

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We all pitch in (me, hubby, and our teenage son) pretty much equally. It'll be the same when hubster and I are empty nesters. We're not "I AM DOMINANT AND THOU ART SUBMISSIVE" types. We're a team. You do this, I'll do that. You need help with something, I'm here to help. You don't feel well? I'll do more than usual. Just help each other out and don't worry about the "rules" that others seem to obsess over.
 

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I have physical disabilities and almost no stamina. I am unable to work at a job outside the home, which means he supports both of us. In fairness I should then do the housework, but if for some reason I can't, he has to fill in the blanks. I'll be able to do the laundry, empty the dishwasher, vacuum, clean the bathrooms, OR mop the kitchen floor, but no way could I do all of those in any one day. I'd be doing well on a good day to complete two of them. That makes me feel bad sometimes, when he has to come home from work and do chores, but he assures me he knows I'm doing my best. He's also pointed out that if he lived alone, he'd have to do everything himself anyway. It's nice that I'm able to help out even partially.

There is one chore I've taken over completely, though, and that's keeping the cat litter taken care of. He has a sensitive stomach and can hardly do it without gagging. It doesn't bother me, so I take care of it.
I can sympathize; I've been getting over surgery. Hope you manage to pace yourself okay. Part of the trick can be doing easy, planned exercises that do not tire, and gradually building up one's threshold; with a balanced diet they can also be good for one's overall health.
 

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I don't anymore. Today I got sick and tired of it and had the kids clean up their mess themselves.
Yep! It's their mess, they need to start pitching in. You aren't their slave :)
 

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How do you and your spouse split the chores around the house?
My wife does most of the cooking, unless it's on the grill.

She washes the dishes, I dry the dishes and put them away.

She does most of the cleaning simply because she likes it done a certain way. I deal with the trash. I kill any errant bugs when their presence offends her.

If something needs mending that comes straight to me.
 

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We don't really have an explicit agreement. We just jump in whatever that needs to be done. Usually one of us cook and the other one does the dishes after.
For taking clothes to the laundromat we go together. For other domestic, we just do them as we see it fit. If I really had to comb, I guess we can naturally lean towards a few activities, I've noticed I tend to clean the bathrooms often and my S.O. vacuums weekly.
 

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I confess to being quite obsessed about cleanliness, neatness..... My beloved solves that problem by letting me do what I feel so compelled to do.

When I'm home, I try to do the parenting thing. She's been doing that all day and seems to appreciate the "pass off" and getting to other things (dinner, etc.) I enjoy the time with my son.
 
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