Children should not get an allowance for chores

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Some experts think parents should not link the allowance money to household chores. Children should be expected to help out around the house and in the yard because they are members of the family, not because they are paid.
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Some experts think parents should not link the allowance money to household chores. Children should be expected to help out around the house and in the yard because they are members of the family, not because they are paid.
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I gave my daughter an allowance so she could earn money and then decide how to use those finances for her own spending (not that she had to pay for much but to see how far or not far her money went). She didn't make as much as other neighborhood kids did though and didn't do much around the house but keep her room clean to earn it.
 

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I agree with the OP statement. As a child, I didn't get any allowance. I did chores because I wanted to help my dad and I wanted to learn how to do things around the house.

For money, I would go and work to earn it. I did a newspaper route, shoveled driveways & walkways in the winter for people, did babysitting, and would feed pets when people went away. If you put your mind to it, there's always a way to make your own money.
 

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Giving a child allowance is important to help them learn its value. Learning to budget is a very important life lesson. When I raised my son, though, I tied it to extra jobs. He had his regular chores like cleaning his room, helping feed and water the dog, loading/unloading dishwasher, etc. But if he wanted extra money, he could earn it in other ways, like shoveling the walk, washing my car, or helping his granny.

Chores are a necessary part of family life, but also teaches them independence, which is what one of the goals of parenting are. Adults don't get paid to cook, clean, shop, etc. Neither should children come to expect to be paid for those activities - unless we want them to grow up with a sense of entitlement and dependence on others to do those things for them.

OP, you are one of a kind, if you grew up wanting to help your dad and do chores. I don't know anyone who wants to, but I know a whole lot of people who didn't want to, but did it anyways because it was an expectation.
 

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IMO, children at some point need to learn economics and how that works....

Just GIVING them money (ie an allowance) is false economics and leads to people becoming Democrats.

Kids need to learn that money comes from WORK. You must DO something for money, money results from accomplishments.

Then they need to learn responsible management of that result of our WORK.




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I don't see anything wrong with giving an allowance, but chores shouldn't really be optional. I don't personally ever remember having an allowance. I started mowing lawns when I was 11 years old and earning my own money.
 
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