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    Christian Advice Requested - Thread: Don't want to marry

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      Apostle Paul never married

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      It's good to not let esteem issues and fear HINDER what can be one of God's greatest blessings....

      Yes, marriage can go BAD and be a mistake (happens sometimes) and YES, marriage can go very right (happens a lot).

      It does take guts.... it does involve a "leap of faith" ... all relationships do.

      Enter slowly... and with both eyes open.... and good to get the advise of WISE and Christian friends, and we had professional counseling that was to each of us individually and together. What we do primarily on emotions is often what we do badly. Move not just with the hormones engaged but also the brain.

      There are valid (and good) reasons not to marry. And that MAY include also because self isn't responsible or mature enough, or have some "issues" that will hinder even meeting someone: those can be handled (and SHOULD be), and if so, well.... marriage may become a good option. But yes, Paul (and my former Catholic priest) had religious reasons to remain single - and that's valid, too. And when I was a grad student, there was a prof who was single simply because he said he couldn't give his 'all' to his passion (science) AND to his wife/family, so he made a choice. Okay.



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      Quote Originally Posted by JennyorAlice View Post
      If you don't want to get married, then you don't have to do so. Yes, God created woman because he didn't want to see man be alone. However, it does not say that a man is forced to take a woman and make her his wife. There are verses in the Bible that talk about marriage but none of them say that a man is forced to take a wife.

      There may come a day when you'll meet exactly the right person and you may change your mind. If you do, then that's okay. But don't let anyone force you to go out and get married. Don't let anyone force you to marry if you don't want to, especially if it's not something that's going to make you happy. Getting married to someone who you are truly happy with is something that is suppose to be happy....not something that is suppose to make you miserable.
      Good point here, there's a difference between "you don't have to be alone" and "you must not be alone"
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

      "If you love me, obey my commandments" - Jesus Christ

      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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      What stops me is the fear of facing the future with my wife, with me i am okay with day to day things. But when a new person comes into life you need to dedicate yourself fully. Which i am afraid i don't want to.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Jason View Post
      What stops me is the fear of facing the future with my wife, with me i am okay with day to day things. But when a new person comes into life you need to dedicate yourself fully. Which i am afraid i don't want to.
      That sounds like a pretty good reason not to get married. At some point you may find someone you just don't want to live without, at which point your views may change. You may live the rest of your life without wanting to commit fully to one person. There's nothing wrong with either.
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

      "If you love me, obey my commandments" - Jesus Christ

      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Lämmchen View Post
      I don't think it's bad to stay single. Remember also that you might change your mind one day and I think society has really let up on forcing people to get married and if you're a bachelor for a long time it doesn't bring about a negative connotation.
      It seems what you said to be true, now i am 34 and I suddenly feel that getting married is fine. I don’t know how long this feeling will be true or stay.

      To all, kindly guide me. How to go about this, and what should be my daily prayer be?

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      Your prayer should be God if you have a woman for me bring her into my life. Also church and social gatherings will let you look around.
      Isaiah 40:31

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      Quote Originally Posted by Jason View Post
      It seems what you said to be true, now i am 34 and I suddenly feel that getting married is fine. I don’t know how long this feeling will be true or stay.

      To all, kindly guide me. How to go about this, and what should be my daily prayer be?
      I'd advise anyone not to get caught up in the idea that there is a single, specific individual out there who is The One for you and anyone else is second best. It's a quaint notion but an idea that leads to all sorts of turmoil later. Instead ask God for guidance with this. If you enter into a relationship with a woman, let it progress naturally. If you and she decide you can't live without each other it will become apparent in time.

      My uncle used to tell me "act in haste, repent at leisure". Don't feel you need to rush, if/when you meet the woman who will become your wife she'll still be there tomorrow.
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

      "If you love me, obey my commandments" - Jesus Christ

      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Jason View Post
      It seems what you said to be true, now i am 34 and I suddenly feel that getting married is fine. I don’t know how long this feeling will be true or stay.

      To all, kindly guide me. How to go about this, and what should be my daily prayer be?
      Are you saying a woman is right? That means you'll make an excellent husband for someone!

      Just know you could change your mind back again too some day. Your daily prayer should ask for God's guidance and will in all this.
      "Christianity does not require more work but more trust." Pr. Jonathan Fisk
      "Bearing fruit does not make you a branch. A branch is a branch because it grows from the vine." Pr. Jonathan Fisk
      "A Christian's life is not defined by what the Christian does. It is defined by Christ and what He has done for us." Pr. Rolf David Preus

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      Thank you all for guidance, it is one thing where decision shouldn’t be instantaneous and haste. I will pray for God’s help and consider the points you have given.

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