Well, I mentioned the incident with secular music before when that incident happened. The praise band did a part of a U2 song "I still haven't found what I'm looking for" which I thought was an odd choice when we as a church have actually found Jesus or we claim we have who is exactly what we are looking for. I thought the song sent the wrong message in an effort to relate to the lost watered down the message to a level I could not support
There's a balance.... And many of us here have changed denominations (me included).
On the one hand, I so remember my father telling me, "There are only two kinds of people in the world: Those who look for green grass and those who work to make the grass greener... the first never succeed, the second sometimes do." And I remember (was it Abe Lincoln?) " you can't please all of the people all of the time." Churches are like FAMILY. They are a community, a communion.... make up ENTIRELY of sinners (which is the only reason I'm let in). We may have a crazy Aunt Zelda ... it's how it is in families. We are sinners in the same boat.... it's a hospital, not a country club. As my (big) family gets together, I don't necessary agree with everyone (or even LIKE everyone, truth be told)... they are FAMILY, I'll give any of them a kidney. And sometimes, you just need to accept the FAMILY isn't all about ME, isn't just ME. Community..... it's a lost concept these days.
On the other hand, we are not to associate with heretics and those that endorse (defend, support) persistent obvious sin. I think there is a PROCESS we are to employ (Matthew 18:15, etc., etc., etc., etc.), this must not be emotional or rushed, this must be motivated by LOVE and the desire for unity. There are good ways to go about conflict resolution. But YES, it can be..... we've done all we can.... and this remains something that in good conscience I cannot continue to live with. Although it was the RCC that kicked him out, Luther accepted reconciliation was not possible. That day CAN come. And it's a very sad one. And it ultimately means everyone blew it. Everyone lost. Sin.
I have publicly given the reasons why I left the RCC. It had to do exclusively with Dogma and the requirement that I docilicly swallow everything. I felt I could not in honestly swar that I did, when I did not But I languished over this. Not as long as I should have. I had MANY conversations with my teachers, my Catholic family, and yes appointments with my priest. Done with HUMILITY and with the acknowledgement that I could be wrong.... and that my action could be both sinful and wrong. I eventually came to some "peace" about my decision, but STILL acknowledge I may be wrong. And I have NO REGRETS at all for my time in the Catholic Church. I was richly blessed there and I thank God for it. I just couldn't SWEAR to GOD that I docilicly accepted a FEW things as DOMGA BECAUSE the RCC (alone) (now) taught them. My conscience wouldn't allow that. But I came to that conclusion VERY relunctantly. And I HATED leaving the church that had so blessed me and to which my family and so many friends belonged.
Been there. Ain't easy.
My advise: BE careful of ego and sin.... spend a LOT of time looking in the mirror.,, Go slow.,,, Listen.... Check facts (things aren't always as they seem).