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    Christian Advice Requested - Thread: If you could say one thing to your pastor...

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      Thank you for your faithful desire to glorify God. I appreciate you.

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      If I could say one thing to my pastor I don't know if I could say something to him in a negative way because I would not want to hurt his feelings unless a larger group of the congregation was there to complain as well. There is safety in numbers? I would like it if he could slow down with some of the things he says because he is a fast talker and I am a slow listener.

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      Don't forget OCTOBER is "Pastor Appreciation Month" in the USA..... DO something, SAY something to your pastor - individually and as a congregation - that expresses your appreciation.
      We are justified by works - just not our own.

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      Quote Originally Posted by TangledWeb View Post
      I don't know if I could say something to him in a negative way because I would not want to hurt his feelings unless a larger group of the congregation was there to complain as well. There is safety in numbers?

      Saying NEGATIVE - CORRECTIVE things to a pastor...


      The Bible spells out exactly how to proceed when there is hurt, offense, sin.... when something "negative" needs to be said. See Matthew 18:15-22. But note that all this embraces an ATTITUDE (often the HOW and WHY of our words matter more the words themselves). We need to come with HUMILITY.... we need to come with LOVE ("speak the truth but ALWAYS with love" "treat one another as you yourselves desire to be treated"). We need to come with a deep, genuine awareness that the fault may be on MY part, not his. We need to come with the ONLY hope being reconciliation, forgiveness, restoration (not to "rub his nose in it"). ATTITUDE is critical.


      We are to come PRIVATELY. No, there is not "safety in numbers." Jesus STRESSES this is to be private, one-on-one. Make an appointment for a PRIVATE conservation. Let him know in advance that you have a concern that involves him, so that he won't be broadsided. Don't tell your wife. Don't tell ANY other church member or any other soul on Earth. Meet with HIM. Check your ATTITUDE. Check your FACTS (because you may have your facts all wrong). Speak with LOVE. Share your perspective - but with the right attitude.

      You will get MUCH further with the biblical approach than by publicly spreading gossip and negativity - and organizing an army against him.
      We are justified by works - just not our own.

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      I'm not sure that Matthew 18 is relevant in a majority of situations because it covers what to do if a brother sins against you. What TangledWeb is talking about is something that seems more like a request than a correction.

      I agree entirely that any approach needs to be done in love and humility. If the pastor talks too fast I'd have thought it's an obvious opportunity to express how much the sermons are appreciated and that the reason for asking him to speak more slowly is to enable the listener to take in more of the sermon. Immediately the focus shifts from "you are too..." which implies fault on the other, to "I'd really like to catch more of what you're saying" which is focusing on how to work together to get more from the situation.

      I'd much rather be in a position to ask a pastor to slow down because I don't want to miss the points he is making, than having to figure out how to say his sermons are tedious and uninspiring.
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

      "If you love me, obey my commandments" - Jesus Christ

      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Josiah View Post
      Don't forget OCTOBER is "Pastor Appreciation Month" in the USA..... DO something, SAY something to your pastor - individually and as a congregation - that expresses your appreciation.
      But do it at a time that suits you rather than at a time that someone else decided is a suitable time. That way it makes it more obvious it's sincere rather than because of what it says on a calendar.

      Earlier this year I gave our pastor a small gift. It was personal to him and a couple of things I know he likes, without being expensive enough that it would cause any embarrassment. I was going to give it to him as a Christmas gift but didn't want to create any sense that he needed to reciprocate the gift, so gave it to him during January. Something given during a time designated for giving always seems forced to me. I like it to be clear something is from the heart rather than from the calendar or a sense of obligation.
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

      "If you love me, obey my commandments" - Jesus Christ

      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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      The pastor at the last Catholic church said the mass in Latin. I would ask him if he could pleeeeeaaaasssseee speak English so it wouldn't be so boring listening to something I don't understand.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Ruth View Post
      The pastor at the last Catholic church said the mass in Latin. I would ask him if he could pleeeeeaaaasssseee speak English so it wouldn't be so boring listening to something I don't understand.
      What made you go then?

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      Quote Originally Posted by Romanos View Post
      What made you go then?
      It was my aunt's funeral.

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