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    Christian Advice Requested - Thread: If you could say one thing to your pastor...

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      If you could say one thing to your pastor...

      If you could say one thing to your pastor what would it be? I mean anonymously. Would you let him know about something that irritates you? Would you praise him?
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      The church I am currently attending I just started going to a few weeks ago. I don't know that I need to say anything to him right now. I did email him once some thoughts about a passage he talked about but it wasn't a criticism. I was just sharing my thoughts about the passage

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      Quote Originally Posted by Lämmchen View Post
      If you could say one thing to your pastor what would it be? I mean anonymously. Would you let him know about something that irritates you? Would you praise him?
      Right now I don't think there's anything I'd want to say to my pastor that I wouldn't say to him in person.
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

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      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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      Quote Originally Posted by tango View Post
      Right now I don't think there's anything I'd want to say to my pastor that I wouldn't say to him in person.
      I agree



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      I think I've said all the positive things....

      Nothing negative that needs to be said....
      We are justified by works - just not our own.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Josiah View Post
      I think I've said all the positive things....

      Nothing negative that needs to be said....
      I think if there are negative things that need to be said it's still important to have the courage to say them in person so the pastor knows who is complaining and why. If nothing else it makes it clear whether the complaint is coming from one person or several, whether the person bringing the complaint is someone prone to a lot of complaining or someone who is normally very supportive, and also whether the concern is likely to be a matter of personal preference or theological concern.

      If you truly believe that you can't bring a valid complaint to the pastor without hiding behind anonymity, maybe it's time to find a different church.
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

      "If you love me, obey my commandments" - Jesus Christ

      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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      Quote Originally Posted by tango View Post
      I think if there are negative things that need to be said it's still important to have the courage to say them in person so the pastor knows who is complaining and why. If nothing else it makes it clear whether the complaint is coming from one person or several, whether the person bringing the complaint is someone prone to a lot of complaining or someone who is normally very supportive, and also whether the concern is likely to be a matter of personal preference or theological concern.

      If you truly believe that you can't bring a valid complaint to the pastor without hiding behind anonymity, maybe it's time to find a different church.

      My "negative" thing would be: Is it necessary to tell us when to stand or sit? NOT THAT IT REALLY MATTERS. I would never even consider leaving the church and my church family over that; would you? I don't even consider it worthy to mention.
      We are justified by works - just not our own.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Josiah View Post
      My "negative" thing would be: Is it necessary to tell us when to stand or sit? NOT THAT IT REALLY MATTERS. I would never even consider leaving the church and my church family over that; would you? I don't even consider it worthy to mention.
      My point was that if it bothers you enough to raise it with the pastor you should feel comfortable with the pastor knowing it was you who raised it as a concern. To sit down with the pastor and talk over a concern, whether it be a major theological issue or a minor irritation, can be a productive thing. An anonymous complaint looks like little more than backbiting.

      If you don't consider it worth mentioning you can always let it be, my point about leaving the church related to the sense that a complaint had to be made anonymously. If you really think that your pastor would react badly enough to you raising a concern that you feel the need to do it anonymously I'd say that was a good reason to consider finding another church, wouldn't you?
      "Do what thou will shall be the whole of the law" - Aleister Crowley

      "If you love me, obey my commandments" - Jesus Christ

      The Bible comes as a complete package. If we want to pluck verses out of context so make them mean what we want them to mean, if we want to ignore the passages that are inconvenient to our outlook, we should be intellectually honest enough to throw our Bibles in the trash and admit we are following Crowley and not Christ.

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